“Is it considered sexual assault?”

This might get a bit long but I had a fwb relationship with someone I got along with fairly well this past summer. We had a fight over something insignificant but he stopped talking to me without any explanation. I tried to make up with him but he just never talked to me. I hadn’t seen him in 5 months and I felt like he threw me away. He was sometimes really selfish and he would never reciprocate in the bedroom or bother to think about how I was feeling and often complained that I took up space in his single bed. He also made mean comments towards the end of the relationship.

Two days ago he suddenly messaged me telling me he was feeling awful. He got rejected by a girl. We ended up having a deep talk about how he relied too much on women to ease his loneliness for a while and he acknowledged that he caused me a lot of pain. However he said the reason he stopped talking to me wasn’t the fight, it was because he saw my flaws and thought I was really annoying. However, right after saying that he asked me to comfort him and to come to his house the next day. I was worried about him so I did.

Our mutual friend was with us and the three of us had fun drinking together. The friend went home and I stayed at his house. I wasn’t expecting sex, he had just said he relied too much on women, but in the end that was what happened. Now the real problem comes in: technically I am a virgin. I cannot insert anything without a ton of pain so I work around it with mostly only doing foreplay. He tried to get inside me, which at first I didn’t mind because I was hoping maybe it would be ok this time. It hurt so much I was ready to cry and I told him to stop, but for a while he wouldn’t. He eventually did but everything he did was way too rough with me and he would ignore the pain I was in and eventually he would try again. It felt like it was only about his pleasure and none of mine. He wouldn’t even look at me or kiss me. He asked me to turn off the lights. I really don’t know what to make of it or what to do…do I talk to him about it? I know what he did was wrong but is it considered sexual assault? I’m feeling very lost here.

 

“I had sex in the park with a co-worker”

I have this guy friend.. we were co-workers for two and a half years. Everybody knew him as funny and flirty. He has been in a relationship with a store manager from a sister store (everyone knew that too) for years. Well I started actually working with his shifts (graveyard shifts), because I was having problems with my then-current bf so I moved out of town and closer to where I worked, except I was by myself living with roommates so therefore I had to pay more bills and find rides to work, because I have to give up my car to pay rent. Continue reading

“He wants a friends with benefits relationship”

I’m 15, I’ve been talking to this guy that goes to my school. We are friends but we flirt a lot and talk about wanting to be more than friends. Neither of us want a relationship and he wants a “friends with benefits” type of thing which I am really on the fence about.

I really like him and I want to have that with him but I am a virgin and he isn’t. I wouldn’t mind losing it to him it’s just I have feelings for him and I don’t really think he has feelings for me. I want this type of relationship with him where we hang out and talk and have sex but not date. But if we have sex and he doesn’t want to continue this or just stops talking to me after a while or something. I would be super upset because I really like him. Basically I want to, but I don’t want to get hurt and there are a lot of ways this could end badly. What do I do?

“I’ve got feelings for my friend-with-benefits”

I have had a ‘Friend with Benefits’ for about 5-6 months. We became friends at work. Since we are coworkers and know our associates gossip like its their mission on earth, ¬†we have decided to keep our personal business very hush-hush.

He’s the first guy I’ve ever been with and…. as cliches would have it, against my own better judgement, I developed some serious feelings for him. In my defense, though, I’m pretty positive he’s caught some feelings as well… at least…. for a while, it seemed like it.

The problem is, that when he was acting like he wanted more than sex and being extra attentive and intimate,and we were starting to interact more like a couple I got overwhelmed and pushed him away out of fear and because I believed that we were not compatible for an actual relationship. Continue reading

“My husband hasn’t touched me sexually in five years”

Need advice! I’m a 55 (young 55) year old woman who is in a bad marriage. My husband hasn’t touched me sexually in 5 years. He does nothing but drink (alcoholic) and watch tv. I take care of every aspect of our life.

Almost 2 years ago I started talking to a guy I went to school with (re-connected at a reunion). Anyway, one thing led to another and now we are in a weird fwb relationship. He is divorced. I have never ever done anything like this Рhave never cheated on my husband.

I know this is wrong, but for both of us, the sexual chemistry is so strong it’s unbelievable. It’s literally the best sex of our lives. My problem is I’m falling for this guy in a big way.

What should I do? Kl

“He wants to be friends with benefits, but I think I might have feelings for him”

So, I just got out of a relationship that was two weeks shy of two years. Though I still cared for him, I’d been done with the relationship much before I finally broke it off.

A friend of mine and I hung out last night (three days after the breakup), and one thing led to another and we had sex. I thought he’d been trying to hit on me before he realized I had a boyfriend, and then once I was single, he seemed much more into me. He calls me pet names and liked it when I cuddled with him and would kiss him on the cheek. He was super-sweet and seemed super-into me as well. I don’t know if I was just reading too much into it because I didn’t understand or what?

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“I feel played by my friend-with-benefits”

I’ve developed feelings for my friend-with-benefits. He told me we are just friends; he is not looking for a relationship. I continued to be his fwb.

He stopped calling me for a week, and when I asked him why, he said he had been busy. I said okay. After that, I left him alone for about a week. My girlfriends and I went out of town for a girls weekend, and we posted on Facebook that we were having fun. He is my friend on Facebook too.

That weekend, in the evening, he started calling and texting, but I left my phone in the room since we were out partying. When we got back to the room, I saw he had texted and called a couple times. I did not text back that night. The next day on the way home, he texted me and asked how our weekend went. During this conversation, he told me he wanted to see me and cuddle and kiss me. This dude NEVER kisses or cuddles.

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