“She accepted my friend request, do I ask her out?”

I’m a 21-year-old female that hasn’t had very much dating or relationship experience. I’ve recently been trying out online dating apps for the first time, including one called Her, for gay and bi women. I wasn’t expecting to see anyone that I’d have a strong reaction to, but I came across one girl who really captivated me for some reason. She lives in my city and even goes to the same college (though our school is very large and it’s unlikely we’d have ever met there anyway). Because I was so intrigued, I looked her up on Facebook and it turns out we share a lot of the same interests and political views, which is very important to me.

On an impulse, or perhaps because I suspected she doesn’t use the Her app much, I sent her a friend request, and to my surprise, she accepted. Now I really don’t know what to do. I feel like if I message her and ask her out that’ll seem really creepy since we’ve never actually met, but I don’t want to let this chance go since she’s the only person on one of these dating apps that I’ve truly been interested in. Furthermore, I’m worried that she only accepted my friend request because she thought we might have met somewhere before, since we go to the same school. We don’t have any mutual friends, though.

How should I approach this? Should I reach out to her through Facebook or just not do anything at all? I really don’t want to seem like a creeper or a stalker or anything like that. I’m still not entirely sure why she accepted my friend request and I don’t want to make any rash assumptions. Please help!


“I have his child and keep finding nudes on his phone”

When I was pregnant I got extremely insecure and paranoid, and starting going through my boyfriend’s phone. I had never been that girl until an ex of mine cheated and I found very upsetting things on his phone. I hadn’t felt the need to do it with my boyfriend now, until I was a month or so pregnant.

I found naked pictures from snap chat and found a bunch of cam girl websites. I got upset, he got upset that I went through his phone, we fought and then he deleted it all and said he wouldn’t do it anymore because it upset me, but that he didn’t see why it was such a big deal, it was just open to him. Continue reading

“I’m worried if she sees me, she won’t like me”

Sorry for the ridiculously long speech thing. Okay here’s my idiotic question – I am in high school btw. I have Facebook, but it seems everybody has Snapchat.  I like this girl, but she only gets on there like every seven or eight days, but she gets on Snapchat like everyday.

I’m not ugly, but I’m not very appealing either, and I don’t want to be taking pictures of myself and putting them on the internet. I don’t take pictures of myself even on Facebook, I just put pictures that I take and videos I like on there. So my question is do I have to take pictures of myself on there or can I just see whatever the heck other people post?

I really like this girl – even though she is really nice – I think she is too beautiful for someone like me. She asked me if I had Snapchat so she could add me. But my situation is that I am a Mexican American and I live in the country, and I have been with the same people in a small school for the past 9 years, so to be at a bigger school it frightens me that people are going to make fun of my little overweightness and my race and my last name.

There is no way they can’t figure out what race I am. Some people love my last name and think it’s great, but others laugh. So do I have to take pictures of myself? Thank you if you can answer,  I know they have pages around Snapchat questions but no one actually answer me specifically.

“Is this how kissing is supposed to be?”

This guy I’ve never heard of popped up to me on Facebook. We spoke a few times and he made it evident that he wanted to kiss me and I told him I’d never done it before.

So tipsy me texts him to come to this party I’m at. I meet him out the front. I told him I didn’t really want to kiss him, I just wanted a peck. So I literally go in for a peck and somehow his tongue was like licking my lips. Is this how kissing is supposed to be? I’m quite scared and ended up blocking him when I got home. Did I do it wrong? I’m so confused! I just wanted a peck on the lips and this guy went for tongue but my mouth was completely closed.

“He has other women all over his Facebook page”

On my boyfriend’s Facebook page he has nothing but a bunch of women with nice bodies. Some have clothes on, some half naked. I feel a little intimidated sometimes because I don’t have a model shaped body and I wonder if he ever looks at me differently after he looks at them.

I think it’s disrespectful because now he’s in a relationship and even though he had the page before me, it’s more of a respect thing to me. I don’t have a bunch of random naked men on my page. I only have people that I went to school with, men and women.

I don’t know if this should be a issue but this bothers me and I told him about it. He deactivated his page, but not for long. So how should I handle this issue or should it even be a issue or am I over thinking about this?

“I’m disturbed after discovering my husband’s social media accounts”

My  husband and I have been married for 6 years through arranged marriage. We have a son (5) and a daughter (2). He was never on Facebook, whereas I have been for some years now. He never seemed inclined and I didn’t fuss over it. However, a few months back out of curiosity I searched his name on FB and realised he had opened an account for more than a year.

When I asked him, he shrugged off stating he never really used it and had opened one on insistence of his colleagues and to connect with friends from his days abroad. When I asked him why hadn’t he added me? He just avoided it saying he never uses it. Nevertheless, I added him and though he seemed reluctant, he eventually accepted it. I checked his account and indeed most people on his friends list were his colleagues from work and few old friends. He had a picture from his late 20s as his profile picture (he’s 40 now). He hadn’t filled out any details and he hadn’t put a single picture of us or our kids. I was not too happy but I thought he wanted to keep things private and professional and let it be.
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“My virtual Facebook lover deactivated his account”

My friend introduced me to this boy, through Facebook. She told me that he was also looking for a partner. At first he was shy, then as days passed, I saw his true character. We had so much in common, I felt that he was my duplicate. We related in so many things. For me, everything was perfect. Even when I saw the negatives in him. And even if we were just talking for days, it felt like years.

One night, my friend, who introduced him to me, messaged me. She told me that he talked to her, saying that he was already falling for me. And he is scared because he had plans before me. He was scared that he would change his mind if he continued talking to me. So he decided that he would not talk to me for a while. Continue reading

“Did she want me to message her?”

I have this girl who thinks I am cute, we have hung out with a group of people, but never together. She then told several friends she thinks I am cute. Later she proceeds to add me on Facebook …….. A month has gone by when she added me on Facebook. Did she want me to message her?

“My boyfriend ‘half’ cheated on me”

My boyfriend “half” cheated on me, meaning I caught him flirting, texting, and trying to meet up with this girl. Our relationship was awesome at the time, even he admits it, so I have no clue why he’d act like that. She sent him “racey” pictures, so it’s not like they were meeting up to discuss world views.

Years later, I notice they’re still friends on Facebook!? He probably gets on Facebook once every 3 months, so it’s unlikely they’re actively chatting, but when your girlfriend’s upset about you attempting to cheat, wouldn’t that be a smart step to take, unfriend her? This is a deal breaker for me, but I’m unsure if I’m out of line, since he’s not an avid Facebook user.