“Why is he going MIA on me?”

I’ve been at this company for a year and worked under the direction of one of the top execs of the company – he’s married. Over the course of a few months, I started to pick up on an attraction from him; long and very intense eye contact, and at other times he cannot make eye contact with me at all. This only ignited a spark in me and suddenly I was paying closer attention. I tried to downplay, tell myself to ignore it all, it is what it is and let it be.  Continue reading

“I don’t know if she is there for me or not?”

I have this friend who I’ve known since first grade. At first we weren’t that close but since I started losing people left and right, she’s been all I’ve had and I love her like a sister and appreciate her being there through everything.

As the years have gone on, I’ve noticed a change. It’s weird because it’s never a constant thing, it’s always changing, but basically she goes through these phases where one minute I’m her bestie then the next she appears to act like I’m an annoyance that she has to keep up with. Continue reading

“I’m dating someone for stability”

I’m not claiming to be a great person but I’m dating someone for stability. I didn’t realize that was what I was doing until I really looked at the situation. He has a house that he asked me to move into, I’m saving money, I have a companion, and I get to be closer to my family. Everything sounds good on paper but there are a few downsides.

I’m moving several hours away from where I live for him and the only time I’m really attracted to him is when we’re having sex. He doesn’t give me the emotional support that I’m craving. He was so kind before we started dating but as soon as we put a title on us (which he pushed for) he became distant and cold. He’s one-worded and I feel like he doesn’t care about me. He has no problem going two days without any kind of communication (which is a big deal to me since this is long distance right now.)  When I press him on it, he apologizes and is okay for a day or two before reverting back to old habits. Continue reading

“My boyfriend and I have terrible luck”

I’m been in this LDR for over half a decade now, but my boyfriend and I seems to have absolutely terrible luck. He’s had to have a number of surgeries over the past years, one to fix a problem, and then the rest to try to fix what was a botched surgery. He’s tried to sue the doctor, but that’s not going very well because he ends up never hearing back.

He’s spent the majority of the last 4 years still trying to heal up, and since he can’t lift anything or even bend down, or even sit for prolonged periods of time, he’s unable to work. I am trying to do my best to support him emotionally as best I can, but I find it difficult as, on top of all of this, both of us suffer from depression and anxiety, and neither of us have proper support systems, as the people in both our environments are rather toxic, and are unwilling to be there for us as we are for them, despite all that’s going on. Continue reading

She gives just enough to keep me giving my all

I’ve been dating a lady for 7 months now. We had the initial honeymoon phase for 8/9 weeks. During that same time, she experienced a lot of change in her life other than me. Her work of 14 years became overwhelming and unrewarding forcing her to look for another job. Additionally, her son is graduating HS this year and will move away to college. As a result of all this “change” she admittedly began to withdraw, or as she put it “hit the brakes hard on purpose”. My response was to be gentle and empathetic by just chilling and being there for her. I didn’t push her to make a choice. Since then, we have been on a roller coaster, one week we are close and engaged in our relationship and the next, I hardly even know she’s interested. Unfortunately it’s been the latter more recently. She gives just enough of herself to me to keep me giving 100% of myself to her. I’m at the point where I need more if I’m to continue our relationship, not a lot more but certainly enough to know this is something she wants to pursue. Right now, I just really cannot tell. I’m torn because I know she cannot be expected to read my mind, but I do have a difficult time with addressing this. To me, if her heart were really into our relationship, she would have the desire to be close. Bringing this to her attention will either cause her to engage more or just go our separate ways. If she wants to stay in the relationship, how will I know it’s because she that’s what is in her heart rather than appeasing me to keep me here doing all the things that I do for her, supporting her emotionally and putting forth the effort to make her happy.