I’m not claiming to be a great person but I’m dating someone for stability. I didn’t realize that was what I was doing until I really looked at the situation. He has a house that he asked me to move into, I’m saving money, I have a companion, and I get to be closer to my family. Everything sounds good on paper but there are a few downsides.
I’m moving several hours away from where I live for him and the only time I’m really attracted to him is when we’re having sex. He doesn’t give me the emotional support that I’m craving. He was so kind before we started dating but as soon as we put a title on us (which he pushed for) he became distant and cold. He’s one-worded and I feel like he doesn’t care about me. He has no problem going two days without any kind of communication (which is a big deal to me since this is long distance right now.) When I press him on it, he apologizes and is okay for a day or two before reverting back to old habits.
If I weren’t moving in with him, I would have broken up with him. I feel trapped.
On the other side, I have an ex that everyone said was emotionally abusive and terrible that I cannot get out of my head. I’m still very much in love with him and I’m really tempted to talk to him again. I miss him so much but everyone important to me tells me that he’s no good and I really want to believe them.
I already gave away my lease and am due to move in soon but I just can’t shake this feeling that I’m not doing the right thing. I don’t know what to do.