“Does my friend need professional help?”

One of my best friends is super depressed and I don’t know how to help. He is pretty good at masking it around people, but I can tell. A few years back he started dating his old high school crush and even proposed and she said yes.

Well, shortly after she broke off the engagement, and for whatever reason he has it stuck in his head that she was the only girl in the world for him. Now almost 2 years later he is still really bad off. He got really blackout drunk on his birthday last year and let a lot of his bottled up emotions spill out and even talked about how he has considered suicide.

Since then he has not drank but he did take up 420 which in retrospect is alright since it is an anti-depressant. I have talked to him about it and expressed my concerns but he is very adamant about not wanting “professional” help and not wanting to be put on “chemicals” (medication). He is my friend and I love him but it hurts to see him in pain and not doing anything to seek help. I want to do more but according to professionals if someone is refusing help don’t push it because it can make it worse. So I just don’t know what to do.

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“Do I get rid of him or forgive and forget?”

I need help. I feel so sick just typing this, I’m 20 years old, I’m a female. I met my current boyfriend on my very first day of college, a year and a half ago and we fell so in love. Everything was absolutely perfect (almost too perfect and I felt it was too good to be true.)

Just 2 months ago he admitted he kissed a girl on a night out (he doesn’t remember and didn’t realize it happened until his friend told him the next day, so he was seriously intoxicated. Obviously, he said it was a mistake, blah blah blah. I can’t get over it and feel so upset. He also admitted he flirted with a girl 6 months ago at a festival he went to (also drunk.)

Do I get rid of him or forgive and forget, which seems impossible at the minute?

“My wife got drunk and tried to cheat on me”

Should I be mad about this? I caught my wife cheating on me with … ME.

My wife is (EXTREMELY, like ready to divorce me) mad at me, because (ironically) she thinks I cheated on her. Long story involving a lady who was a friend of mine (never even kissed her, actually) and a years-old email message from my friend that that I’d totally forgotten about. Until my wife (snooping through my old email messages) went batsh*t crazy over it, that is.

So my wife decides she’s going to solve all of her problems by spending THE RENT MONEY to go out alone with her “gay” friend (I’ll call him Mike) and get plastered.

She calls me at 1 AM to come get her. She’d spent about $150 of the rent money, I assume on drinks for the two of them. But when I found them, she was buying takeout food for him. Could have killed them both, but there was a young child home (asleep), so I was mainly concerned with getting my drunk wife home fast. Continue reading

“I apologize for things that aren’t my fault”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four years. I am always the fixer, which means whether it’s my fault or his, I go to him first to fix any problems we have. Always. He hardly apologizes when he’s wrong and I apologize too much when it’s not my fault.

Tonight, we went out for some drinks and took an Uber. On our way back to the house, we accidentally got in the wrong Uber. The driver asked for his name, he said his name and confirmed. We hopped in. I guess the driver didn’t hear the name correctly. Almost home, we realized this mistake; the driver was a total asshole, and said pay cash or get out. Neither of us had cash so we got out. We made a report to Uber since we were stranded at midnight on the side of the road. We called another and finally made it. Immediately he placed a complaint with Uber. He said he wanted to file a police report and say the Uber driver was drunk driving or speeding and driving recklessly. Continue reading

“I got drunk and cheated on my husband”

I absolutely love my husband and believe he is my soulmate. We have gone through some pretty bad times together, but are happier than ever now. We mostly have a very open relationship, where we can talk to each other about many things.

Long story short, I have a minor issue with alcohol, where I lose my shit when I drink alcohol, and just do a bunch of stupid things. I leave a trail of destruction after a night out. I have stopped for three months at a time a few times because I have just hated myself so much after my actions on some nights out. I wish I had been able to stop altogether, but I guess I couldn’t. Continue reading

“My boyfriend got drunk and pissed in our son’s crib”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. We have a one-and-a-half year old and a two week old.

Over the years, after he gets drunk, he sometimes will get up in the middle of the night, walk somewhere, and just piss. Once, he pulled his drawer out and pissed in it. Another time, he just sat at the side of the bed and pissed. It’s as if he’s sleep walking though as I’ve tried waking him up, and he just yells at me that he’s pissing, and I’m rude for trying to stop him. It doesn’t happen too often but it seems to be happening more often now. It uses to be only when he drank hard liquor but now it’s beer as well, it just depends on how much he drinks I guess.

He never remembers doing it in the morning, and always says he will clean it up but I’m always the one to clean up after him and I’m sick of it. Tonight is really it for me. I’m done with it, but I just don’t know what to do about it. Continue reading

“Learning to trust again”

Me and my partner were together for 6 years, we always drank a lot socially and he did drugs before we got together and very rarely when we were together as I really don’t agree with drugs.

Anyway we had a daughter and I hardly drink at all now but he started drinking more and more and did drugs at our home one night when I was out with friends (our daughter was with her grandparents) I left him over this as it was the last straw for me, we split up for over 6months and he’s drinking and drug habit was a bit out of control but he didn’t drink when he had our daughter. We decided to give things another go a few months ago and things have been OK, he rarely drinks now but I am finding it so hard to trust him and keep wondering if we’re only together for the sake of our daughter although we get on well etc.

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should I leave it in the past?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, I’m 21 and he’s 24. Lately his behaviour has changed a lot. It seems like we argue almost everyday and it’s usually over little things. He tends to get angry pretty quickly and it always ends with him calling me stupid and saying I’m incapable of doing anything right. I have told him that I don’t like it when he calls me names but it feels like when we argue he uses it against me out of spite. A few days ago we went to a concert, and he got really drunk. So drunk that he could barely stand straight, it was super embarrassing. While we were sitting down he patted his jacket and couldn’t find his phone, he got REALLY angry and started shouting at me and saying that he’s going to break up with me if he doesn’t find his phone by the end of that night (a phone I had bought for him) I was pretty sure he hadn’t lost it but every time I tried to go near him to search for it he would swear and shout at me so I just left him alone, when he did eventually find his phone in his pocket I burst into tears and he started begging for forgiveness and saying he was sorry. Even though he apologised and I accepted it I still can’t get over that night and I’m so hurt that he would be so mean. Do you think I should bring up that night? Should I tell him how I feel? Or should I leave it in the past?