My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. We have a one-and-a-half year old and a two week old.
Over the years, after he gets drunk, he sometimes will get up in the middle of the night, walk somewhere, and just piss. Once, he pulled his drawer out and pissed in it. Another time, he just sat at the side of the bed and pissed. It’s as if he’s sleep walking though as I’ve tried waking him up, and he just yells at me that he’s pissing, and I’m rude for trying to stop him. It doesn’t happen too often but it seems to be happening more often now. It uses to be only when he drank hard liquor but now it’s beer as well, it just depends on how much he drinks I guess.
He never remembers doing it in the morning, and always says he will clean it up but I’m always the one to clean up after him and I’m sick of it. Tonight is really it for me. I’m done with it, but I just don’t know what to do about it.
Tonight he woke me up making a bunch of noise and he got up stomped out of the room and I just knew he didn’t go in the bathroom. Then I heard him pissing but not in the toilet so I got up to go see where he was pissing this time and he was in our son’s room pissing in his crib! I freaked out, grabbed his arm, and dragged him out of the room and yelled at him, telling him that he’s pissing on our son. Luckily He was at the other end of the crib but still I can’t let him stay sleeping in there. He argued with me that he wasn’t and I was rude because he was trying to piss and I was interrupting him. He finished his piss in the toilet then went back to bed like nothing happened.
Our spare bedroom is occupied with furniture from the living room as were doing the floor and painting or I would be in there. I’m downstairs on the couch now with my son, and the baby is in a cradle on the floor. I can’t stop crying and don’t know what to do.
I just want to tell him if he’s going to get drunk like that then I don’t want him to come home or he needs to sleep downstairs because I’m not dealing with this pissing bullshit. I really didn’t care before, but seriously, if he doesn’t think this is a problem in the morning then there’s something wrong with him.
What do you think I should do?
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^ I think you should do some research on being in a family with a alcoholic.
You may need to get others like his parents/siblings/friends to help you.
You may need to invest in finding somewhere to go if you and the kids need to leave.
He doesn’t think this is a problem and that is a huge problem.