“I’m starting to have doubts”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and the last year has been long distance. He is without a doubt my favorite person in my life and the best guy I know. We have so much fun together and he is incredibly kind and thoughtful – the type of guy many women dream about marrying and starting a family with.

He is completely devoted to me, but for some reason I can’t get doubts out of my head that something is not right. Even though I really love him, I’m not as attracted to him as I would like to be. This has caused a problem with our sex life because I don’t particularly want to kiss him or have sex with him. Continue reading

“I want to break up with him, but he pays my bills”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now. We took a break a few months ago and I started seeing someone else. I fell in love with the other guy, we had the same goals but the other guy just wasn’t stable. He did drugs and was unemployed, but we clicked.

I got back with my boyfriend and the other guy was devastated, and honestly I was too, but I also loved my boyfriend a lot and the plan was always to just be a break. Anyways, a few months have passed and I just don’t feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore. I still love him a lot and the thought of not being with him hurts like hell, but I can’t be intimate with him without thinking about the other guy.

I feel so guilty, and I know I should probably break up with him, but he pays most of my bills and I’m working part time so I can finish school. Without my boyfriend, I wouldn’t be able to work things out financially. I don’t want to keep delaying this break up… but I don’t know what else to do.

 

“My love life is a complete mess”

I’ve made my love life a complete mess. I was dating this wonderful guy, off and on for 3 years. I cheated on him twice (yes I know, I’m awful) but we got back together after both.

He bought me all kinds of thoughtful gifts, made me close with his family, planned a future and was just great. In February I broke up with him to date my friend from work, who I thought I was madly in love with. It felt incredible, like my last relationship just sucked, and this felt great. That only lasted for a few months and now I feel sad all of the time and find myself constantly thinking about my ex.

I currently live with my boyfriend which makes this all so much worse. Do you think I actually regret ending the relationship? How can I love someone and want to be with them if it was so easy to leave?

 

“I’m stuck between by boyfriend and his brother”

I need some advice on a crazy situation. I had been dating this guy for a year now, and awhile back I started going to school with his brother.  I kinda started to like him because I had gone to school with him before I dated his brother,  and then we started to secretly date. We did acid, all 3 of us, and it was fun, but that is where it all started .

I really thought I was in love with my boyfriend’s brother, but then he fell super in love with me and started to freak out and stress, about not being able to date me. Then his aunt saw us kissing at school one time, then his parents found out, but they said that they wouldn’t tell my boyfriend, because he is unstable with that kind of news. Continue reading

“I’ve made a good and bad list about him”

So I am having a really hard time deciding if I should stay with my current boyfriend of 3 years. When I first met him I was 100% sure he was “the one”. We have shared a lot of good times and a lot of bad. I’ve been told by a lot of people that I shouldn’t settle for him and that there is better out there for me.

Part of me believes it, and another part can’t stand the idea of him being with anyone but me. My best friend told me to make a good and bad list and though the bad list is longer, there’s a lot of value to me in the good list. Continue reading

“Was she playing with me?”

I met this girl at clothing store. I was with my daughter. I wrote my phone number on the receipt and gave it to her. She texts me a couple of days later. We set up a date and she shows up late, she said she couldn’t find the place, which was odd, but I went to meet her and help her find the place. The date was shorter because of this, so we hiked for about 1/2 hr, and talked for another 40 min. It was nice, there seemed to be chemistry.

We continued to text for several days and sometimes phone interaction, things still seemed okay, however I tried to set up another date. She sort of had excuses. Realized that she was a friend of the bottle. Continue reading

“I found out he had used hookers”

5 months ago I started dating a guy from work, and it was a total dream come true. He’s smart, driven, mature, career started, and a nice change for my age group, a handy man. But I don’t know if it was the trust issues from my ex, or what, but I went though his phone this weekend and found out he had been using Tinder, and hookers (multiple) before he met me.

So here’s the issue, I’m the kinda girl that thinks Tinder is where dreams go to die. I have never, and will never hook up with anyone, and am really careful with STDs. I’ve made every guy I’ve been with, give me a signed doctors note  saying they have been tested (way to shoot romance in the face right?)

I confronted him and he told me the truth and that he was ashamed, and just so lonely. He kinda told me about this stuff before I found it, so I gotta give him credit for that. But he did lie, and he only lied because he knew I would have left him if I found this out earlier. He had been single basically his whole life, and has a lot of family issues. Does that make it okay? Should I overlook this? Do people get a “ do over” button when they start a new relationship? He said that most people our age are like this and no matter what guy I’m with, he will have done similar things. so now what?

“I’m regretting rejecting him”

About 7 months ago, this guy friend of mine asked me out. I said ‘no’ because I was really into someone else, and I was very stressed and busy with school. We remained friends however, and I was happy for him when he started dating someone else about a month later.

Now, however, I am starting to have feelings for him, but he’s still with the other girl. Also, even if he were single, how could I go about letting him know that I’m interested, since I already rejected him once?

“I need to get over my ex”

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost 2 years ago. We were dating for 2.5 years, mostly a long distance relationship. I found out that he went on a business trip with an female co-worker and they shared the same room. When I asked him why he didn’t tell me, he said there were 2 beds and they didn’t do anything.

Long story short, we broke up, he blocked my Facebook and still does. After a year or so, he emailed me to catch up, but I said nothing. Anyway, I’m dating my current boyfriend for almost a year now and we are very happily in love. However, whenever it came to him or I saw his Instagram post and his girlfriends, there is a feeling that I cannot describe. But I know it’s definitely not love, not friendship, nor happiness.

So I want to ask for advice how to get rid of that feeling, because I know it is unfair for my boyfriend, if my mind still thinks about my ex, even just for 1 sec. I don’t want to see my ex ever again if by any chance we meet, I want myself to walk past him like I don’t know who he is. Please give me some advice.