Tag: controlling

“I’ve made a good and bad list about him”

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So I am having a really hard time deciding if I should stay with my current boyfriend of 3 years. When I first met him I was 100% sure he was “the one”. We have shared a lot of good times and a lot of bad. I’ve been told by a lot of people that I shouldn’t settle for him and that there is better out there for me.

Part of me believes it, and another part can’t stand the idea of him being with anyone but me. My best friend told me to make a good and bad list and though the bad list is longer, there’s a lot of value to me in the good list. Continue reading →

“Is my girlfriend forcing me to be with her?”

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I met a girl online a few years ago when I was 16. We started a relationship because I believed we had a future, she told me she was planning on moving to my country when she was older, before we even met. In mid 2015, she had an idea where I lived in her country with her for 1 year, and we’d move back together which would have started January 2016 and ended January 2017.

The first month I lived with her, she told me the 1 year would end up as 5 years, I was alright with this, even though a tad disappointed (I’m a family person and I knew I’d miss them). Recently she’s been upset about not being sure if she wants to move to my country at all, leaving me here wondering what to do with myself, I can’t leave her because I’d miss her and I have too much stuff here to move out now. Continue reading →

“Do I deserve a second chance?”

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I had a relationship a couple months ago with this guy that I still adore. We broke up because I have emotional and mental issues – I was abusive and controlling but for the most part, unaware.

He didn’t say anything but slowly got distant and did things like have a headphone in when we were on dates. I’ve matured and seen the awful ways I treated him, I’ll regret not seeing what a monster I was, for the rest of my life. Continue reading →

“Am I being anal retentive about the car we share?”

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I have a sweet boyfriend who is a part time mechanic. He bought a cheap old car, fixed it up a bit and lets me drive it. We live some thirty kilometers apart and it takes forever to get home on my scooter. We split the insurance and road taxes. I pay the gasoline and drive him to and from work.

But it bothers me something awful, whenever we talk to people, he says that it is his car and he just lets me drive it. It makes me feel like I am a little gold digger. I am paying half the expenses and all the gasoline. Am I being anal retentive if I would like him to say OUR car??

“How do I convince my girlfriend to not get a tattoo?”

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How do I persuade my girlfriend to not get a tattoo without it making her feel like I’m trying to control her?

My girlfriend has recently brought up her interest of getting a tattoo and as someone who finds tattoos on women to be a real turn off, this is pretty concerning for me. I mean absolutely no offense to girls with tattoos. It’s just not for me. I’m worried it might affect our sexual relationship. I do love my girlfriend a lot but I’m not a very sexually active person as it is. I fear that her getting it would just push my desire to have sex even lower. Continue reading →