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“My boyfriend and I fight constantly”

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My boyfriend and I fight a lot! We have been together for about 10 months now. We are both in our mid 20s. We broke up once around 5 months because of constant fighting. I was upset with him a lot because I didn’t think he was a good boyfriend to me at first. Perhaps due to his lack of relationship experience and years of sleeping around. But then I knew I wasn’t a good girlfriend either. I was very demanding and would be pissed for lots of small things and had the habit of ordering him around and occasionally making fun of him in front of his friends etc.

Little did I know, at that time, when we first started dating, he slept with his ex twice. It’s the only ex he had three years ago. He dumped her, and she has been in love with him/waiting for him for 3 years. He confessed to me last week. I was shocked. He said he wasn’t very serious with me at first cuz of the way I treated him, and he really wanted unprotected sex which I couldn’t give him. That he regretted deeply after we got back together the second time, and told her ex that we were getting serious so they should stop. And it never happened again. He cried so hard and begged me to give him a second chance. I eventually agreed but on the demand of checking his phone whenever I want, which he agreed. Continue reading →

“I’m dealing with family grief and cheating”

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A couple months ago, my grandmother and aunt died in a car accident. My mother was devastated, seeing as losing your mom and sister is really rough. Although I have mostly accepted it and moved on, my mom hasn’t really. She is definitely an emotional person and I don’t expect her grief to last forever, but it worries me how much she cries when she thinks no one is looking or is in a depressed mood.

My dad has not been much of a source for support to her either. He was kind to her at first but now he mostly keeps to himself. They have been married for 20 years but recently, my mom found out that he was cyber cheating on her for sixteen months. I have no idea what to do in this situation, the tension in our home is so high and I hate to see the situation breaking my mother like this. Please help.

“My fiancé has no sex drive”

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Me and my fiancée have been together for about three years. We are still madly in love and everything is going well, except the sex. About a year-and-a-half ago, we started having sex less and it’s just decreased until the sex is now non-existent. He insists it’s nothing to do with me and he still tells me I’m beautiful and compliments me. I’ve tried talking to him so many times in so many different ways, but he just makes up different excuses all the time. He acknowledges that the sex has stopped and says he misses it, but then doesn’t do anything about it. I’ve tried coming onto him and he just turns me down. I don’t want to have to end the relationship, as I love him, we’re engaged and own a house together, but, how can I go on like this? Eventually it will take its toll and I’m starting to think about having sex with other men. I’d never cheat on him but the fact I’m thinking about it is bad enough.

“I feel completely alone right now”

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I feel completely alone right now. I love my boyfriend deeply, but, recently, I found him texting another girl after a night out. He’s cheated before, but, foolishly, I forgave him. He says he’s sorry, but, I just don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t understand what I did wrong for him to cheat on me. And now every time that he leaves to a friend’s or his cousin’s house, and I think he’s cheating. I’m completely lost on what I should do.

“My fiance is still seeing his ex-wife”

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We’re sitting here talking, and he’s texting her. He doesn’t think I know, but I do. He changes her name to the person he is talking about or “talking to” the most that day and acts like the conversation is still going on.

She is his “ex”-wife (and I use that term loosely), and I am his fiancee. He has told me stories of how horrible she was to him, and how she “bamboozled” him into marriage. Yet he still talks to her. I know a woman’s intuition is usually spot on, but not only do I have that “gut feeling,” I have the proof to back it up. I know what time he actually gets off work, but he doesn’t know I am aware of the time.

H stays with me every night and talks to me all day long, but I know when he is talking from work, and talking when he is with her. We have dubbed the day I found out about him being married (we have been together for over a year — again — now, and this is a recent issue from August) to be called “D-day.”  He has “walked away” from everything he owns and knows, and I know that he hasn’t. Continue reading →

“If my current relationship fails, should I try again with my ex?”

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I’ve been online dating someone for a year now.

That aside, in 2011 when I was 16, I’d started online dating my ex. In 2013, the day I turned 18, I dropped out of school and bought a bus ticket to where he lived. It was great at first, but declined quickly as soon as trouble arose. For whatever reason, I’d stuck around for a few years after and only moved out and back in with my dad June of this year. I did love my ex, and I was sad to leave, but there was so much bitterness nothing could be done.

Back to my current LDR, I do deeply love this boy. However, I cry a lot since leaving my ex’s place, and every time I talk to him (which isn’t often, but sometimes he lets me know, because we did have a life together). Continue reading →

“I’m in love with a cheater”

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I feel completely alone right now. I love my boyfriend deeply, but recently I found him texting another girl after a night out. He’s cheated before, but foolishly I forgave him. He says he’s sorry, but I just don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t understand what I did wrong for him to cheat on me, and now, every time he leaves to a friends or his cousins, I think he’s cheating. I’m completely lost on what I should do?

“My long-term boyfriend has multiple dating profiles”

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I’ve just found out my boyfriend of three years has multiple dating profiles on tinder and POF (he left his computer open). I haven’t told him I know about them yet. I’m trying to decide whether to stay with him. We’ve lived together for two years, and have just moved to the other side of the country four-months-ago to be closer to his son from a previous relationship. I’ve bought a house for us (in my name, as he has a lot of personal debt), with the settlement due next week. He has cheated on me in the past when we first met. I’m not sure if I can forgive him again.  Should I pack up and move back to my home state?

“My husband is talking to other women”

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So, my husband and I have been together for 11 years. Lately, he seems really uninterested in me sexually or emotionally. We don’t talk unless it’s about bills or something serious. I’ve noticed lately he has been chatting with some old friends of his who happen to be female. One of the females was very disrespectful to me, and he did not defend me, but, he claims it’s just a friend, and that she is not attractive to him.

Yet, he has long private conversations with them – one of which was a sexual conversation that was supposedly a joke.

He says he loves me and is afraid to lose me, but am I really just being naive and being played or am I just being crazy?

“I had a fling with a lesbian”

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I had an affair with a bisexual woman who was visiting my country. She has a lesbian relationship back home. She went back home and had plans to come back to my country because of a job.

I’m not sure how, but her lesbian girlfriend found out about our fling. She blocked me on Facebook and won’t return my text. Now I don’t know if she will actually come back.

There is a big chance she is either single now or about to be. Her gf is hurt and that sucks, but, all cheap morality aside, I really want to make a move if that relationship has come to an end.

Will she let me know when she’s over her gf? Or will she never ever speak to me again? Getting caught is her fault. Is she seeing me as an enemy or a bad person?