Tag: brother

“He was sexual with his sister”

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Please help settle this tiff between this couple:

K says:

Okay, so my boyfriend informed me last night that between the ages of 12 and 13, he engaged in sexual activities with his blood sister. There was no penetration, but foreplay took place. He stopped once they were caught by his father. It took 6 months for him to tell me, and I completely understand why it was so difficult for him to tell me.

I feel disgusted and confused. He shows clear remorse for the situation, but also expects me to be calm and collected about it all. I cannot stop thinking of psychological repercussions. I’ve never had a sibling of the opposite sex. Is this normal? He is trying to convince me to some degree that it is not unusual and I just don’t understand.

I know the past is the past, and I love him and who he currently is. My main problem now is the length of time he took to inform me? I believe I should’ve known about this prior to us entering into a sexual and emotional relationship.

R says:

I come from a different culture and a different country — one where sex is much much more taboo in general and not easily accessible. This was somewhat of a common occurrence in my area, and while I do admit it was wrong, I do not see why I even had to tell my significant other. It should have no impact on our current relationship. I was only a child when it happened.

“I’m stuck between by boyfriend and his brother”

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I need some advice on a crazy situation. I had been dating this guy for a year now, and awhile back I started going to school with his brother.  I kinda started to like him because I had gone to school with him before I dated his brother,  and then we started to secretly date. We did acid, all 3 of us, and it was fun, but that is where it all started .

I really thought I was in love with my boyfriend’s brother, but then he fell super in love with me and started to freak out and stress, about not being able to date me. Then his aunt saw us kissing at school one time, then his parents found out, but they said that they wouldn’t tell my boyfriend, because he is unstable with that kind of news. Continue reading →

“My brother’s been looking at our mom, naked”

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This is a really uncomfortable situation I am in, and I have been debating constantly about what I should do for the past couple of days.

 My younger brother is 4 years younger than me, and we used to be pretty close growing up. Now that I am in college and have moved away we aren’t as close, but we do still talk often.

Well, I came home for the weekend and was bored, so I logged into his computer to play some video games. He wasn’t home and gave me his password beforehand. Right when I logged in I saw that he had a folder named L on his desktop. I know it’s fucked up to invade my brother’s privacy, but my curiosity got to the best of me and I opened it. Continue reading →

“My brother died and his girlfriend is all over me”

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My brother died and we just had his funeral, but during it, his girlfriend was overly touchy-feely with me. During hugs she would be squeezing my arms and back. During a sit down hug she was grabbing my head and kissing me all over.

It would be different if I was a kid or something, but I’m 20 years old. I’ve only met her once before all this and didn’t think anything of it. Now she is inviting me out to coffee and I’d rather not. How do I politely decline and make sure I never see her again?

“Has my boyfriend been seeing someone else?”

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I’ve just received some disturbing news from my estranged brother who lives with my boyfriend of two years; he told me that my boyfriend had been seeing one of his friends on the side for the past 18 months. He seemed so earnest when he told me, so I spoke directly to my boyfriend. (On a side note my brother and boyfriend have been growing apart for the past year now and barely stand each other anymore).

He said it was stupid and that it was complete bullshit, and he too looked so earnest and hurt about the accusations and I do trust him. I honestly don’t know who to believe because I trust both of them and they both looked and sounded so earnest. We’ve been together for two years and I’ve invested so much into this relationship that I don’t want to lose it.

My confession is that I want to ask my boyfriend to look through his phone, just to settle my paranoia. Even though I trust him wholeheartedly, I can’t stop thinking ‘what if’ and it’s eating me inside. But I don’t know how to ask without destroying everything in the process. But if I don’t ask, it’s going to destroy me.

“My parents care about my brother more than me”

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I am really confused and I need some family advice!

I feel like my parents care about my brother more than me! Every time he asks them for something, they are always more than happy to give him what he wants. For instance, he asked to be taken to a summer camp about an hour-and-a-half away from where we live, but when I asked to go to a church youth group two minutes away from where we live, my mother told me that no one wanted to take me. And at that time, my parents had friends over, which i understand….but still. Its only two minutes down the road.

And also, they let my brother invite friends over and even go out to other friends homes, but when I ask, I am always told no. I feel like they hate me and love my brother. Please help! What should I do?