“My parents care about my brother more than me”

I am really confused and I need some family advice!

I feel like my parents care about my brother more than me! Every time he asks them for something, they are always more than happy to give him what he wants. For instance, he asked to be taken to a summer camp about an hour-and-a-half away from where we live, but when I asked to go to a church youth group two minutes away from where we live, my mother told me that no one wanted to take me. And at that time, my parents had friends over, which i understand….but still. Its only two minutes down the road.

And also, they let my brother invite friends over and even go out to other friends homes, but when I ask, I am always told no. I feel like they hate me and love my brother. Please help! What should I do?

2 thoughts on ““My parents care about my brother more than me”

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    The best way to approach this is not to phrase it as your parents caring more about your brother, but about the inequality in the freedoms and privileges you’re given. How much they care about you versus your brother is intangible — it can’t be measured, and you can’t make a clear comparison. Ergo, your parents can easily deny this accusation.

    On the other hand, if they let your brother do something, and they don’t let you do the exact same thing, that’s a tangible comparison. That’s something that you can point out, and say, “Hey, why does he get to do this exact thing, and I don’t?”

    So that’s my advice:

    If you really think they’re being unfair, start keeping track of the very tangible ways (i.e., ones that your parents can’t deny) they treat the two of you unfairly. And then bring these up, and … see what they say.

    Good luck with this, and feel free to let us know how it goes.

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