Tag: boyfriend

“I have a gay crush”

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I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. Recently, there’s this new guy who is a total sweetheart and I catch myself thinking about him from time to time. We’ve become good friends for the past few months and I’ve been having these “what ifs”.

I’ve told my boyfriend about my conflicted feelings and he says he’ll stand by decision regardless, which makes me feel all the more guilty. I would really like to be rid of this ridiculous crush once and for all but I don’t know how.

“He cheated, it’s in the past, but I’m struggling to move on”

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I found out over a year ago that my partner had cheated on me. I’m still struggling with it, and I’d like some advice from an unbiased source. The way in which I found out was teen-soap-opera levels of melodramatic, but I’ll leave it at this: I found out, confronted him that night, and after several nights of conversation we decided to work through the issues and stay together.

Fast forward to now, and we’re getting close to 3 years. The love I feel between us is so strong and sincere that I get emotional thinking about it. I’ve had my fair share of shitty guys who lent a hand in warping my perception of myself and my worth, but this man has helped me feel loved in the skin I’m in now, and I’m so unconditionally cared for. We live in our own places but I’m there often enough to feel like I live there, with my own set of keys. We spend so much time with each other and I really do cherish every moment. Continue reading →

“I’m in love with my ex”

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I have been dating this guy for a year, and I care about him a lot but I don’t want to be with him. It’s kind of one of those “our parents wanted us to be together” things. But I’m in love with my ex.

My ex and I broke up 3 years ago but have been sneaking around and seeing each other in private.. is it wrong of me??? What should I do? Because now my ex is talking to me about this great new girl he met who he likes, and what not. I just wish I could be with him.. but I can’t break up with my current boyfriend, and now I feel like my ex is using me for sex. I’m stuck and I feel like a horrible person.

“My boyfriend’s cold attitude is making me feel horrible”

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I told my boyfriend today that his indifference and cold attitude towards me makes me feel horrible about myself. He won’t call me beautiful, won’t have sex with me, and spends every waking hour he can on his computer and ignoring me.

I told him it feels horrible that I always build him up and let him know how great he is, when in return he won’t even give me the time of day basically. I told him when he rejects me for sex, it’s more than just an “oh man I’m horny thing” and that having sex with him makes me feel sexy and empowered. He cooly responded that he was sorry sex was so validating for me.

I have manic depression and he used to be an uplifting part of my life but I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m in a tough spot as I live with him and feel like if I leave him it would put me in a position where I would need to find a new place and I don’t think that’s possible. I don’t know what to do.

“My boyfriend is being a jerk about prom”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We were good friends when he was in high school, but never dated. Now he is in college 5 hours away, and I’m still in high school and we are happily in love.

However we are having a situation over prom. My boyfriend hates prom. With a passion. He thinks of it as an excuse for boys to have sex and get drunk and girls to be sluts. I think this is a ridiculous stereotype. I can’t even mention the word prom without him getting mad. He keeps making comments saying that he is going to be a jerk the night of prom.

It’s not fair for him to ruin my high school experience. I love him and see a future with him so I don’t want this little hang up to ruin us, but it hurts my heart.

“My boyfriend never has sex with me”

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Can you imagine being a 41 year old woman and you have no life?! Your kids treat you like pure shit and your boyfriend would rather go out drinking beer and watching football than spend one single minute alone with you.

You never have sex…oh, wait a minute, you might about once a month, or every 2 months, and only then because you cry that you never have it. So nice to have to force your boyfriend into having sex with you. Makes you feel like a disgusting piece of shit. Is he getting it elsewhere? Continue reading →

“I hate my boyfriend’s dog”

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Honestly…I hate my boyfriend’s dog. We live together and he barely washes the dog and it sheds a shit ton,  stinks and has ringworms. He is not taking care of it. I fucking hate the dog and want it out. I even imagine hurting the dog or letting it out of the house to never see it again.

We have been together for almost 3 years…. I would hate to break up after this but he refuses to get rid of the dog. He used to walk it once a day and she would pee and poop. I went fucking crazy and now he walks it twice. Every day my hatred for this dog grows.. what do I do… I have been picturing abusing the dog and I don’t like having those thoughts, I’m just mad.

“My boyfriend quit college”

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I need help in determining if I am in a dead end relationship. It started in June 2016. I started talking to this guy on Facebook. We both attended the same college and planned on meeting for the first time then. We were pretty much in a relationship when we first met. We have been dating 7 months now.

Last fall semester, he told me he hadn’t been going to class about half way through the semester. After telling his parents, he was warned if he did the same thing in the spring, he would move back home. Which is 3 and 1/2 hours from our school. So the spring semester comes around and he does the same thing. However, he told me in March but it’s been since February he hasn’t been going to class.

He has made specific lies about how he’s in class and has homework and lying to me for months. He tells his parents and his parents tell him he has to withdraw and go back home. So now he is at home and he is choosing to work until he can come back to school. I love him but I don’t feel like I can trust him and also with the distance and his job, I am not sure I will be able to see him as often as I’d like to. Help.

“My new man is a bit intense”

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I am a 33 year old woman. Last June, I left a 7-year relationship, which included 4 years of marriage. I’m currently in the middle of the divorce. Immediately after leaving my husband, I had a 3-month intense rebound relationship with an ultimately emotionally unavailable man that left me heartbroken for longer than the relationship lasted. I decided to go to therapy and try to remain single for a while, to learn more about myself and prevent future mistakes of these types.

Before I hoped — i.e. a couple weeks ago, after about 6 months of single-hood–I met a man I really liked. He was interesting, we have a lot in common, I felt really comfortable around him, etc. I was in heaven for the past week or so, but some doubts have surfaced. Continue reading →

“Our relationship is affecting our friend group”

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My boyfriend and I were part of a pretty small friend group before we got together. We all hung out frequently, but now that we’re dating, we mostly hang out with just each other. Though I enjoy being with my boyfriend, I feared that this would happen and our friend groups dynamic would be off.

Now, my boyfriend kind of separates me and our friend groups interactions with him. Recently, I decided to visit him in the afternoon. He had told me another one of our friends would be coming over too, which I was completely fine with. While we were waiting for him, my boyfriend started talking about how excited he was to hang out with our friend alone (exact words: “I was so excited to hang out with him alone, then you came over.”) Normally, I wouldn’t be upset, but he said this after I had already asked beforehand if I could come over and he seemed fine with it. Only when I was actually there, did he say this. I left because of this a few minutes after our friend came over. Does anyone think I’m in the wrong?