Tag: best friend

“I’m in love with my best friend, but he gives me mixed signals”

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I have known this guy M since 2010, and we have been friends since. However, we did move away for a few years and both recently moved back to the same city, so our contact has been off and on for a long time.

Earlier this year in April, we started meeting up with one another, and I have always thought he was a good-looking man, but after seeing him this time, I was very attracted to him in a way I had not been before when we first met back in 2010. Anyways, since April we have started seeing each other regularly — hanging out and going out once or twice a week — and have gotten very close. We completely trust each other, we discovered we have a lot in common and expect the same thing out of relationships.

One day we were hanging out watching a movie, and he started holding my hand, so I was really excited, because I was thinking “holy crap he must have feelings for me.” Since then, we have been cuddling, and he’s started showing me a lot of affection. Sometimes I stay overnight and we cuddle and sleep. We however have never been sexual. He has kissed me on the face and playfully bit me on the neck once. When we cuddle, he touches my hips, so to me, that is more than just friendly, right? Continue reading →

“I miss my best friend”

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I have a question, well, it is almost more like a long-winded life story that requires a solution to solidify a happy ending.

Here goes. In Grade 8, I changed schools, and I met my best friend, I’ll call him Marty. Anyway, at first, Marty and I were indifferent towards each other, until one day, we started speaking, and then we discovered that we were cut from the same cloth, if you will. From then on, we were inseparable. In the beginning of our Grade 9 year, Marty and I started dating, but the relationship, although absolutely wonderful, was short-lived, lasting just longer than a month. Marty ended our relationship very abruptly, and, as I found out later, this was because he has issues with trust, and, apparently, did not believe that I was really the person that I made myself out to be. Regardless, the split broke my 15-year-old heart, as far as a 15 year-old’s heart can be broken.

I was devastated and sought comfort in a group of girls, who introduced my young self to weed, alcohol, and other mind-numbing substances. I spent the remainder of my Grade 9 year, completely wrapped in a bubble of somber depression and a substance induced haze. I told myself that when Grade 10 came, I would straighten my life out and focus on my studies. And then Grade 10 rolled on in, and, on the first day of the school year, I found out that Marty was in every single one of my classes, except for one. So, I made up my mind to mend bridges, and I did this quite effectively, and in a short while we were inseparable again. Continue reading →

“I’m in love with my boyfriend’s best friend”

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I have feelings for my boyfriend’s best friend. Yes, it sounds like every cheesy movie ever, but it happened to me. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. While we have had our good times, the majority has been miserable. I suffered from depression during the relationship and lost sight of who I was.

Now, I have gotten treatment for my depression and am feeling happier, but I am still unsure about the relationship. I always try to listen to my boyfriend’s wants and needs, while I feel that he does not return the favor. I have discussed this with him many times and only recently have seen results. Unfortunately, I believe he is only making these changes because he fears he will lose me. Continue reading →

“I’m bisexual and interested in my best friend”

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My best friend and I have been best friends for three years, and are as close as possible. Recently, our whole school has started to “ship” us together in a relationship. I actually DO like her more than a friend, and we are both bi, but she always seems slightly disgusted when people mention the ship. Since I’ve been her best friend for three years, I can see that her reaction isn’t real, but she also is expressing a liking for a guy in the grade above us. Any advice on how to ask her out?

“I’m in love with my best friend, who lives in New Zealand”

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I live in America and I have a best friend who lives in New Zealand. We have been talking for four years. I am in love with him and he feels the same. I am hesitant to try long distance right now, though, in the past I haven’t been. In the past he was scared, and now its me who is afraid. We have been besties through a lot, so I know our friendship can survive a lot, but I am scared if we broke up we might not be friends, and that would basically be unbearable for me. He does wanna move here, but doesn’t have the money at this point, and it would be a year or more before he did.

I really do love him – he’s great to talk to and gives good advice, and I can tell he really cares about, and loves me. Should I try long distance???

“I took Xanax and kissed my cousin’s friend”

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I recently tried Xanax. I don’t really remember what happened but I remember kissing my older cousin’s friend. My best friend was there (who’s taken a Xanax before) and is being really distant now. She’s disappointed in me because she liked the guy I kissed, and because I took two Xanax.

I didn’t know she liked the guy. When she tried Xanax I was the only one who wasn’t mad at her and was there for her. I’ve tried talking to her to make her understand, and it’s sort of better, but she thinks this is going to mess up our relationship. What can I say to reassure her it won’t?

“He’s my best friend, but I might like him more than that?”

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So, I am feeling some conflicting feelings toward somebody in my life right now, and I would like to get input from anyone who can relate or speculate. I just met this guy about four months ago at school. We are classmates in an intensive two-year program. We see each other every day and have become really good friends. I don’t think I’ve ever become such good friends with someone so quickly, especially not a guy (btw, I’m a girl lol).

I’ve been in three serious relationships in my life, but I’ve never actually had a close platonic guy friend. But now, with this person, I recently realized I might actually like him as more than a friend.

But I’m not sure!

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“My ex and I are still best friends”

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My ex and I are best friends, and they’re the only person i ever dated. They told me they still cared about me a couple of times, and I still care about them.

Is it bad to do that and still be really close? We’ve been asked if we got back together, because of hugs and sort-of hand-holding (but not exactly walking around or leaving them at our sides). Not to mention that all the flirtatious behavior from our relationship still spills around, like joking winks or getting pretty close in the personal space (not that I’m complaining, let’s be honest), to the point that I thought they were trying to kiss me the other day.

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“I love him, but he wants me to go for his best friend”

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I have a friend that I have known since I was 4, and I am now 22. I stated liking him back in grade 6 ( when I was 11), started really liking him in high school, but never did anything because he was my brother’s good friend.

Well, coming home from school this January, I started talking to him again, and I fell even harder than I ever thought I would. He told be I was his first crush and that he has always liked me “like that.” Recently, we had a downfall with a lie that was started though his ex and mine. It tore us apart. He said he needed time, and I respected that. During this time, it seemed as though he lost all interest in ever being with me.

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