My fiancé and I have been together for nearly four years. He has quite a promiscuous past, but I saw past that and gave him a chance. When our baby was eight weeks old, he went to France for a trip he won through work.
A woman on the trip started flirting heavily with him while they were both drunk on the plane. He refused her advances. On the first night there, he got insanely drunk, and she came on strong. He cheated on the rooftop of the hotel with her.
Hi, my guy and I have been in a relationship for the past nine years. In the past three to four months,we’ve been facing difficulties due to our common friends, as they’ve been telling him things about me, and he’s really hurt.
He really wants to get back together, but is confused and hurt, and is having second thoughts about our relationship. Please help us get back together asap!
This post isn’t dating or relationship-related, but it cracks me up how bizarrely specific the situation it gives advice for is:
You’re walking down the street … you see someone you kind-of-sort-of know … at least well enough to know that they’ll recognize you, too … you feel like you should acknowledge them somehow … but … you really don’t want to stop and talk to them.
This. Exactly this situation. And nothing more.
If you ever encounter this situation, here’s the perfect advice for you:
“The Non-Awkward Way to Acknowledge Someone You Barely Know as You Walk By”
When a loved one is struggling, our first instinct is often to tell them what we think they should do, or how to fix everything. At the very least, we share suggestions and ideas. After all, we want to help them.
But that’s not always what the other person needs from us.
Here’s an article that explains what it means to “hold space” for someone — to truly be there for someone who needs us.
I’ve been with this guy for a few years. We’ve been through hell together and have both learned a lot from our relationship and each other. But my financial situation put me in a really tough spot about two years ago. I ran out of options. I needed to get away from my toxic family, and my boyfriend had been out of state for months “on vacation” without me.
I ended up living in a pop-up trailer. I was pissed off. Eventually, we broke up. I thought it would be over for good and decided to make sure I never went back by moving out of state.
I definitely need advice on this confusing relationship I’m in. So I was with my boyfriend for a year-and-a-half. We broke up almost two months ago. Right away, he started dating a way older woman (I’m 32, and he’s 35). She’s 58, with three kids and is divorced.
Right away, he moved in with her and her kids. From the first week he and I met, we both fell hard for each other. We both have children from previous relationships, but we both wanted a baby together, so we got pregnant. I was seven-and-a-half months pregnant when I went into labor and delivered our daughter, who passed away.
Here’s a column from The New York Times titled, “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person.” It takes a fairly pessimistic outlook on relationships (the author isn’t kidding with that title), but manages to twist that pessimism into something productive.
The column begins by pointing out a common mistake we all make:
Perhaps we have a latent tendency to get furious when someone disagrees with us or can relax only when we are working; perhaps we’re tricky about intimacy after sex or clam up in response to humiliation. Nobody’s perfect. The problem is that before marriage, we rarely delve into our complexities. Whenever casual relationships threaten to reveal our flaws, we blame our partners and call it a day. As for our friends, they don’t care enough to do the hard work of enlightening us. One of the privileges of being on our own is therefore the sincere impression that we are really quite easy to live with.
The problem is, everyone makes this same mistake, because no one is perfect.
Ultimately, what matters isn’t whether or not the person we marry is right for us (because they won’t be). What matters is how we’re able to negotiate our differences.
I don’t know where to begin. I have been with my partner for almost two years. We live together, and I love him to bits.
He works away a lot. He is a tradesman and gets called all over the country to do work, so it takes its toll when he is gone for two or three weeks at a time, and then is only home for a few days before he is off again.
We have been very lucky in that he has had a lot of work near home for the past two months, so he has been home, and it’s been good to see him after I come home from work, and to be able to spend weekends together.
There’s a guy I work with at a bar. He’s a chef, and I’m a bartender. We’ve walked home together twice and made out quite heavily both times. We work together very rarely, so I doubt I will see him for another month or so.
I don’t fancy him at all, but really enjoyed getting felt up. Is that bad? I think he might like me, in which case I feel guilty. And if that’s not true, maybe he wants more than just fooling around. Would guys just want to fool around? I have a feeling they wouldn’t.
There’s this guy who’s been chasing me for a year or so. He’s asked me out a few times, and I said no every time for a few reasons. One was my parents, and another was that at the time, I liked him, but was uncertain, or didn’t love him as he deeply loved me.
We continued to stay really close friends, and it was great. Then one night, he asked me how would I feel if he dated someone, but still treated me the same? When receiving this message, I just felt betrayal and hurt. We talked on the phone that night, and we were both stressed and crying over what to do.
He started saying stuff like, he felt they wouldn’t last, and that we could date in the future in college. So he was trying to decide between me or her. Initially, he wasn’t taking the new girl seriously and still loved me deeply.
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