I definitely need advice on this confusing relationship I’m in. So I was with my boyfriend for a year-and-a-half. We broke up almost two months ago. Right away, he started dating a way older woman (I’m 32, and he’s 35). She’s 58, with three kids and is divorced.
Right away, he moved in with her and her kids. From the first week he and I met, we both fell hard for each other. We both have children from previous relationships, but we both wanted a baby together, so we got pregnant. I was seven-and-a-half months pregnant when I went into labor and delivered our daughter, who passed away.
It’s been two months since we lost the baby, and just about two months that he’s been with her. The whole time he’s been with her, he’s been cheating on her with me. We see each other about four times a week. We talk all day, everyday on the phone. He says he still loves me and told me I’m still his girl.
Everyone knows about him and me, except for her. He recently moved back in with his mom because her kids hate him, so now, he’s closer to me and about two hours away from her. He keeps saying he’s going to break up with her for me. He told me he didn’t want me to date anyone else or sleep with anyone else, which I haven’t done. I’ve only been with him since we met a year-and-a-half ago.
He wants me to get an apartment, and then he will break up with her. I keep asking him to choose. He says he chooses me, but won’t break up with her until I get a place. She doesn’t want him talking to me. She goes through his phone, posts daily how perfect and happy they are, and talks to his mother (who knows he’s still sleeping with — and I guess dating — me). But she’s the only one who doesn’t know what he’s doing behind her back.
My question is, is he telling me the truth, or lying to get what he wants? Is he really going to ditch her for me, or am I really just wasting my energy and time on bull shit?!?