“I moved and now my best friend doesn’t talk to me”

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Not too long ago, about last year, I moved away from my hometown. I, sadly, had to leave behind almost everything I knew from the country, and settle for a city home. Back home I had a best friend – the one and only person I could confide in, and be my pure self around. I was sure that we would stay close – but I was wrong.

She never called, never returned my calls, and never visited. Slowly, I lost all hope that I would remain friends with this person. During the summer I made a new REALLY close friend, only to have HIM move away at the end of the summer. Now I am really wanting my best friends back – so I need double advice. Continue reading →

“My dad and stepmom are keeping me on lockdown”

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I can’t seem to find a solution to this. My Dad and Stepmom have been keeping me on “lockdown” because of my insufficient grades and not doing chores, but I have all A’s and B’s (although admittedly more B’s), and I’m really stressed out all the time with varsity sports and trying to figure out my life as a high school junior.

They say that the problem is that I can handle everything on my plate if I just apply myself, but I signed up for three college classes and play a full-time sport, and it’s always taking a toll on me. I try to explain that I’m constantly stressed out and questioning what my motivations for doing all this are, but they only see my pleas as excuses for not doing stuff. Continue reading →

“What can I say to let him know that I have a boyfriend?”

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I had crushes on 3 people in October, and I gained some confidence, so I told one of them that I liked him in November. I see him at school every day in a lot of my classes and he’s also at my bus stop. He told me that he’s not ready for a relationship and all that ‘generic’ stuff and kind of started talking to me less after that.

Then, in early December, I found out that one of my other crushes, the one that I liked the most, liked me back. So, now we’ve been boyfriend/girlfriend for more than a month and I haven’t really told the other guy that I have a boyfriend. He’s starting to talk to me more again, and I’m pretty sure he thinks that I still like him. While I don’t hate him, I also don’t want him to say something like he’s ready for a relationship now, and I would have to say no. I’m not the kind of person who likes doing that. What can I say/text to him to make him know that either I have a boyfriend now, or I don’t like him like that anymore without being that direct?

“Should I let my fiance have sex with another woman?

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Should I let him have another woman, just for sex? I have been with my fiancé on and off for over 10 years, and it’s been a solid relationship for the past 2 years. But, for the past 6 months, I just don’t care about sex anymore. I don’t desire it from anyone at all.

I’m still attracted to my fiancé, and I love him. But, I find no benefit from it. Some info to note, I have depression, hypothyroidism, am 4 months pregnant, and I’ve never had an orgasm during sex. I’ve accepted the fact that I never will. Although, even satisfying masturbation seldom sparks my interest. Continue reading →

“How do I tell my Christian mom that I want to live with my boyfriend?

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I grew up as a Seventh-Day Adventist Christian, and I was always taught that you were supposed to get married before having sex or moving in with a significant other. This was my plan for a long time, but it became unrealistic, and I met the man of my dreams and the guy I plan to marry, and those things changed a bit. (He is a baptist Christian.)

To make a long story short, I’m still a Christian and still a Seventh-Day Adventist, I just view some things in different ways. Well, I have to move out of my college dorm during the beginning of May, and I want to get an apartment with my boyfriend (of almost a year) and another couple. I am also certain that this is what I plan to do, but I don’t know how to tell my mom. (I will tell my father eventually, but I care more of my mom’s opinion.)

I mentioned to her the idea of getting an apartment (didn’t mention boyfriend), and she said that she was okay with it, but only for the summer, because living off campus during the school year will make doing school work and going to class harder. Continue reading →

“My best friend is bi and hinting that he wants me to ask him out”

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Things have gotten … complicated with my best friend. I’ve known him for the better part of three years, and I’d personally consider him my closest friend at the moment. I’m a guy, by the way.

However, things are beginning to get complex between us. At least, I think so. Some context: He’s been dating a girl for the last few months, and they really love each other. However, my friend has very recently told me that, as well as liking women, he likes men, too.

Since then, he’s been … playful with me. Holding hands, accepting my back massages, sitting on my lap. Stuff like that. Today, when we were talking, he said he doesn’t mind me flirting with him in response, and that he’d probably say yes if I asked him out … if he weren’t already dating a woman. Continue reading →

“He’s planning to be roommates with the girl he cheated on me with”

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So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. We never really had issues until this girl who became his best friend came into his life. If they had been friends long before then, I would have absolutely no reason to feel insecure.

However, he and I started dating months before they became friends. About a year into our relationship, he and his friend started dating — and I was completely unaware. He was cheating on me and lying about it, but he had told his whole family and all of his friends that he had broken up with me.

I never really let people get to me like that, but went into a manic state and faced (and currently still face) a lot of mental struggles. He cut me off, and I felt very alone, because all of his friends are also my friends, and based off of his lies, they took his side. Continue reading →

“Will he ever be okay with me needing time to be ready?”

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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half now, he’s my first boyfriend and our relationship was doing amazing. We’re both in college now and he’s really sweet, and we talk about our future together all the time.

However, he has told me many times that the sexual aspect is sub-par and he would like more from it. Lately he has been asking me to go down on him more and for me to start giving him bjs even though I’ve expressed to him many times that I’m really uncomfortable with doing that. Even though he tells me that all of his friends are doing it, it still really scares me. He’s been asking for about 6 months now and my idea of it hasn’t really changed. Continue reading →

“Did she want me to message her?”

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I have this girl who thinks I am cute, we have hung out with a group of people, but never together. She then told several friends she thinks I am cute. Later she proceeds to add me on Facebook …….. A month has gone by when she added me on Facebook. Did she want me to message her?

“I’m having doubts about my boyfriend and our future”

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I have been with this guy for almost a year, and I’ve never been happier. Lately he has been distancing himself, he will not go out and won’t talk to me for hours. I have recently been catching up with a friend of mine who I haven’t talked to in a very long time. I have never seen him as more than a friend, but the more I think about it, the more I feel as if I might actually have feelings for him.

I absolutely love my boyfriend and I would never want to hurt him. We always talk about our future together and getting married, but right now I’m having doubts. He has been very neglectful. My friend and I have been talking a lot and every time we do I am extremely happy. Unfortunately he is friends with an ex of mine though. Am I just catching feelings because he is giving me more attention than my boyfriend?