“I love her but she’s moving”

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So I’ve been dating this really amazing, friendly, and funny girl for the past six and a half months, but she’s recently been offered a job that’s quite a long commute from where she’s currently living. Obviously, this means that when she moves, she’ll be moving closer to her new workplace, and further from me.

I genuinely love this girl, and want what’s best for her, but at the same time, I’d rather not have things end because of this. We get on really well together, we seem to be on the same wavelength when it comes to certain things, her values align with mine, we’re both vegetarians, and we have similar interests. As well as this, I have Asperger’s Syndrome, so I tend to be pretty awkward due to my issues with social interaction. While some people might be scared away by my awkwardness, she loves it.

I’m more than willing to try a long distance relationship. The place she’s aiming to move to isn’t super far away from where I live, so it’s definitely doable even if I won’t be able to see her as often as we do currently, but is it possible for things to work out between us?

 

“She accepted my friend request, do I ask her out?”

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I’m a 21-year-old female that hasn’t had very much dating or relationship experience. I’ve recently been trying out online dating apps for the first time, including one called Her, for gay and bi women. I wasn’t expecting to see anyone that I’d have a strong reaction to, but I came across one girl who really captivated me for some reason. She lives in my city and even goes to the same college (though our school is very large and it’s unlikely we’d have ever met there anyway). Because I was so intrigued, I looked her up on Facebook and it turns out we share a lot of the same interests and political views, which is very important to me.

On an impulse, or perhaps because I suspected she doesn’t use the Her app much, I sent her a friend request, and to my surprise, she accepted. Now I really don’t know what to do. I feel like if I message her and ask her out that’ll seem really creepy since we’ve never actually met, but I don’t want to let this chance go since she’s the only person on one of these dating apps that I’ve truly been interested in. Furthermore, I’m worried that she only accepted my friend request because she thought we might have met somewhere before, since we go to the same school. We don’t have any mutual friends, though.

How should I approach this? Should I reach out to her through Facebook or just not do anything at all? I really don’t want to seem like a creeper or a stalker or anything like that. I’m still not entirely sure why she accepted my friend request and I don’t want to make any rash assumptions. Please help!

 

“Do I tell him I miscarried his baby?”

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Around two years ago, my fiance (now husband, lets call him Joe) and I broke up and shortly after, I started seeing another guy. He was married, but separated, and there was an undeniable spark and attraction between us from the second we met. I was madly in love with him (lets call him Will), and if I’m honest, I still have very strong feelings for him. Very long story short: some complications came up with his wife and son and custody/divorce so we stopped dating. The last thing I wanted was to cause an issue with his son.

After we stopped dating, I was devastated and knew that Joe would take me back and we could be some kind of happy (which we are). This all happened within 4 months or so. The issue is that shortly after I married my husband (a month or so) I discovered that I was pregnant with Will’s child. A girl. We had talked about kids in the hope that one day we might have one together and we both wanted a little girl to share our lives with. And just after I learned the gender, I had a miscarriage. I’m still so heartbroken over it. I want to tell Will what happened, but it’s been so long and I’m married and he is seeing someone else… I just don’t know what to do. I feel so alone. No one knows except me and I feel like he deserves to know, but at the same time I don’t want to cause trouble with his girlfriend. What do I do?

 

“I’m worried about my friend”

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I think something is going on with my friend and I don’t know what to do. Through time she’s been slowing changing. For the past couple of years, she’s been dating a bunch of different guys and has cheated on a lot of them. During this time she had a not so great family life. She started drinking a lot. Then she met a different guy who she dated for a while and moved away with.

She told me after they broke up that he had been verbally abusing her, he was into hard drugs and they had been drinking all the time together. Now she’s on and off with him and dating a few other guys and drinking. I get the feeling that she’s using this as a way to cope and I don’t know what to do. I wanna help her but I don’t know how.

 

“I lost my virginity to him and he never calls me”

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Hi 🙂 I’ve been pretty sad lately. All throughout middle school and high school, guys had limited interest in me. As a senior in high school, I got a job at a pizza shop. This was the first time a guy really gave me attention. I don’t think I really knew how to handle myself. We started texting in April and our first date was in May. We had a few dates and then he started getting busy during the day with questionable friends (he hadn’t gotten drunk until he started hanging out with them).

We kept texting everyday until probably late July. Sometime during that time I invited him to sneak over to my parents house at night so we could hang out again. He did and we made out and watched a movie. Then he went on a trip and the texting got sparser. I went on a trip later in early August so we could hang out. Then he snuck over once more before I went away for college about 3 hours away. Continue reading →

“My crush has turned into tension”

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For the past few months, I have developed a crush on this guy at school but I’ve always been too afraid to tell him or even talk to him. However, one night whilst I was staying at my friends house, I told her that I liked him and she had convinced me to message him to initially start fresh and sort out our differences ( because of this argument we had last year ), so me feeling brave this night, decided I would do it.

He replied not too long after, being rather worried but I didn’t see this message because I was asleep by the time he replied ( like 20 mins after I know ) so I got woken up by him calling me over and over. Continue reading →

“My bosses sister touches me inappropriately”

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I need advice.Sorry for the long post, I would really appreciate it if you read it. I don’t know how to get out of this situation? I’m writing this post because basically I’m lost. I don’t know what to do?

I invited my boss’s sister to join my all female group with a specific focus. My boss is always complaining that her sister is socially awkward, and lost in life, so I decided to invite her to join my group. I have worked there for the past two years but my boss doesn’t like me. She seems very uninterested and unimpressed with me. I should also admit I’m scared of her. She basically ignores me in the office and our offices face each other.

Twice a week, after work, I facilitate this all female group with a specific focus. My boss’s sister started coming to the group two months ago. She is a 53 years old, short like 5ft 2, skinny, masculine, freckled face, creepy green eyes, thin lips, red haired woman . I am a 39 year old 5ft10, heterosexual, curvy hourglass shaped, attractive brunette. Continue reading →

“How do I tell them I’m dating him?”

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I’m 15 and I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months. We are really happy and he’s been a good influence. But I’m indian. My parents are fairly strict and it’s rather late, so telling them about him now is going to be a bit scary. How do I tell them?

PS – My mom asked me if I’m dating him and I denied it.

 

“He’s obsessed with my racy past”

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I am a woman in her late 20’s, and have a bit of a wild past with incidents of random hookups, with both men and women. My current partner found out about the hookups with a girl and even a threesome and now every time we have sex, despite me telling him it makes me uncomfortable, he asks for me to talk to him, and tell him about the hookups with girls and the threesomes.

I fear it is the only way he can cum and that he isn’t even thinking about me anymore. Now he also wants a threesome with another woman and I do no,t and it is causing a lot of tension. I have expressed to him why it makes me uncomfortable and the fears I have of it destroying our relationship. Even so, he pushes for it and throws it in my face when we fight. He also guilts me over it because “I’d do it for my ex, but not him”. He also calls me selfish for not fulfilling his fantasy due to my own emotions. Aside from this issue things are close to perfect. I do not know what to do.

 

“Do I marry her or is the grass greener?”

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I have known this girl since we were both 12, and we’ve been together for almost 7 years now (we’re both 25). We have kind of reached that point when it’s getting strange that we are not married, or at the very least engaged. She has hinted numerous times that she wants to get married (and so have my parents and her parents, to some degree). But the idea of marriage and kids gives me full-on panic. Continue reading →