“My declining sex drive has ruined our relationship”

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I have serious problems with sex in my relationship. We are both in our thirties, been together for 8 years and have two kids (so, opting out is no real option).

When we started going out we had lots of sex but, even before the kids, my desire started to decline. We talked a lot about it, but even I myself have no idea why I lost interest in sex. My doctor could not find anything (physically) wrong with me and still finds no hormonal imbalance. I also do not use any hormonal contraception and never did. Continue reading →

“Love at first sight and love at first read”

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The guy I’m in love with doesn’t want me, and the guy who wants me I don’t give a damn about. I have this quasi relationship with a guy friend I went to high school with. He always tells me how cute and sexy I am but I know that’s all he thinks of me, he’s told me he doesn’t have romantic feelings. I’m only half-attracted to him physically even, but we’re both lonely and we both need a warm body in bed sometimes.

Meanwhile, there’s this OTHER guy. It was love at first sight. He’s contributed articles to a political newsletter I intern for, and when I read his writing, it was love at first read. He’s genuinely the smartest person I know, with a really cool taste and music and style, and really cute, boy next door good looks. I went out with him once and had a great time, and I thought he felt the same, but he said he was too busy right now to try to start a relationship. Besides, he’s planning to move across the country in a year or so for school.

I basically understand I should cut it off with the first guy, although it is hard when I know the alternative is being alone. I do not know what I should do about this other guy who I fell in love with at first sight who does not have time for me.

“Is his bad attitude a deal breaker?”

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I have been dating my boyfriend for 1.5 years and this is my first serious relationship. I worry a lot about what’s normal and what I should expect from him. He does some “typical” boyfriend things like opening a door for me. He is really nice to me for the most part.

However, if he does something I don’t like, even when I ask him to stop, he continues doing it. He doesn’t fight fair at all, and he holds grudges forever. I am happy with him, but he also makes me extremely sad and angry sometimes. He is mean to my friends and he thinks this is okay because him and his friends are mean to each other. Continue reading →

“Is the spark meant to last forever?”

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My girlfriend and I are fairly young and you may be tempted to not take this seriously, but please do. We are very mature for our age and are involved with numerous things and activities that require us to be so.

Some background; I myself am 18, while she is 16. We’ve been together for six months now and have had a very steady and serious relationship up until very recently. She brought to my attention that to her, she feels like the relationship is slightly different for her now. She says that she still loves me the same, and still reciprocates everything, from my kisses, to our cuddles. But, she has also said that to her it feels as if the spark for her has gone out? Continue reading →

“Is it a rebound relationship?”

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My head is spinning and I don’t know that what my mind wants, is actually what it wants. I also don’t know what is the right thing to do in my situation. Help.

About 8 months ago I moved away from Cali to New York leaving my girlfriend of 4 years and we started to do the distance. Our relationship started to go sour and my girlfriend started blaming me for the reason things were going bad because I was pursuing my dreams. She wanted to break-up multiple times but I guess I convinced her to stay with me and maybe it will get better. Continue reading →

“I’m depressed because of my stretch marks”

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I’m a 16 year old girl and I have very prominent stretch marks because I’m so pale and because I have gained a lot of weight in the past few months. Recently I’ve been really upset by them because they’re getting worse.

I recently had a really bad fight with my best friend and he won’t talk to me anymore. I don’t handle emotions well because of my depression, anxiety etc. I don’t have enough money to have the operation of the laser removal treatments, so I’m trying to find a way to feel better about them. Right now I feel ugly and fat, like even if I lose this weight I won’t be any better because these are going to be on my body forever. They’re on my stomach, hips, thighs, arms, sides and breasts. I’m just looking for ways to make them fade or even just advice on how to feel better about them. I know I’m overweight and I’m working on feeling better about my shape but the marks really make me feel bad about myself. Anything helps.

“I have a gay crush”

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I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. Recently, there’s this new guy who is a total sweetheart and I catch myself thinking about him from time to time. We’ve become good friends for the past few months and I’ve been having these “what ifs”.

I’ve told my boyfriend about my conflicted feelings and he says he’ll stand by decision regardless, which makes me feel all the more guilty. I would really like to be rid of this ridiculous crush once and for all but I don’t know how.

“My soulmate isn’t interested in me”

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I don’t know what this means! I’ve been friends with this guy for 7 years and we’re very close. We talk on the phone every night and discuss our feelings and problems. The other night we were talking about soul mates. And he said he didn’t think their was one person for him. And I said you mean like you can’t find someone who can speak to your soul, but make you laugh and in the same breath? To which he replied well, the only person is you, so unless you clone yourself…and then he trailed off.

I really don’t know what to think. I’ve shown interest towards him in the past and he has always turned me down. I don’t know what to think…

“Shall I tell my ex about my side chick?”

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I broke up with my girlfriend three weeks ago. It’s been two weeks with no contact, but long story short, I lied, strayed and hid stuff from her due to pressure from Uni, financial issues, and depression.

By strayed, I mean I did stuff I did not usually do, including have a ‘side chick’ who had no idea about me and my girlfriend being together.

My girlfriend found out about another incident where I drunkenly messaged an old flame and this old flame sent my message to my girlfriend who found out about it months later.
Basically, I became a guild-ridden self-loathing individual and she didn’t recognize me. She still says she loves me, just not the way she used to, and yet, she hoped I would change.

I’m trying to change now, trying to be better and fight this depression, but now my girlfriend and me have broken up…should I even bother telling her about the side chick? Or should I tell the side chick that I lied to her? Or should I just move on from the side chick and hope for the best?

If I want even the smallest bit of reconciliation with my ex, I don’t want this to pop up and hurt her in the future. I’m done with the lies, but is there a point to hurt her unnecessarily?

Please help.

“My girlfriend is always lying to me”

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I’m 16 years old and I’m in a relationship for over a year now. I really love her, but it’s getting more frustrating every day. She never cheated on me, but I caught her in a lie A LOT of times, not big lies, but they are still lies and now I have trust issues.

Everything she says to me, I suspect it, I’m not sure anymore if she is being honest to me or not, so this is getting out of control. I just can’t believe her, I was thinking about breaking up but I can’t do it, I love her and I can’t imagine my life without her. By the way, yes, we did talk about this topic multiple times but I still can’t trust her and I feel I’m being lied to, I need any advice.