I have been dating my boyfriend for 1.5 years and this is my first serious relationship. I worry a lot about what’s normal and what I should expect from him. He does some “typical” boyfriend things like opening a door for me. He is really nice to me for the most part.
However, if he does something I don’t like, even when I ask him to stop, he continues doing it. He doesn’t fight fair at all, and he holds grudges forever. I am happy with him, but he also makes me extremely sad and angry sometimes. He is mean to my friends and he thinks this is okay because him and his friends are mean to each other. He doesn’t ask about my day at work, but speaks ad nauseam about his own day, his coworkers’ days at work, where he’s going to work, all kinds of random things, and he expects me to remember it all. I am not a big talker, but if something cool happened to me, I would like for him to care. My stories last no more than a minute, but he still won’t listen. Sometimes I don’t even wait for him to ask me about my day. I try to talk about my day but he will either glaze over, not care, pull out his phone, interrupt me to talk about his day, or get up and walk away while I’m talking. I’ve brought this up for months but he doesn’t work on it. Does this seem like a deal breaker? I want to be with someone who cares about my day and wants to know what I do at work.