The guy I’m in love with doesn’t want me, and the guy who wants me I don’t give a damn about. I have this quasi relationship with a guy friend I went to high school with. He always tells me how cute and sexy I am but I know that’s all he thinks of me, he’s told me he doesn’t have romantic feelings. I’m only half-attracted to him physically even, but we’re both lonely and we both need a warm body in bed sometimes.

Meanwhile, there’s this OTHER guy. It was love at first sight. He’s contributed articles to a political newsletter I intern for, and when I read his writing, it was love at first read. He’s genuinely the smartest person I know, with a really cool taste and music and style, and really cute, boy next door good looks. I went out with him once and had a great time, and I thought he felt the same, but he said he was too busy right now to try to start a relationship. Besides, he’s planning to move across the country in a year or so for school.

I basically understand I should cut it off with the first guy, although it is hard when I know the alternative is being alone. I do not know what I should do about this other guy who I fell in love with at first sight who does not have time for me.