“I’m confused about my sexuality”

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I’m almost 15 and I recently came back from two weeks at summer camp. At camp I met a girl named Alice and we became fast friends. I wanted to be around her all the time, I always wanted to be touching her… One night I couldn’t sleep because I kept imagining us on a date.

That night I came to the conclusion that I wasn’t totally straight and that I had a crush on Alice. I wanted to hug her and kiss her… we were so close and did everything together, so much so that all the other girls at camp actually thought we were dating. I’ve been mildly questioning my sexuality for a few months bit I’ve never had actual feelings or desire for another girl before I met Alice. Continue reading →

“Is the grass greener on the other side?”

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I have known this woman for about 8 years. We have been dating for 4 and have been engaged for 8 months, set to marry in December. I’m not sure if I’m in love with her anymore, yet I think she’s perfect. I can see myself living with this woman and having children with her but I’m not happy anymore.

Everything about getting married is stressing me out beyond comparison; money, a house, the wedding, every part of it. It’s draining me. I’m not sure of what to do anymore. Part of me wants to stick it out to make her happy and maybe I’ll be happy. Then another wants to just end it and experience everything out there. We’ve been together since before high school graduation and we are now graduating college.

I feel as though I’ve been tied down and I’m starting to desire something else. More and more women are catching my eye and I’m crushing on a coworker. I’m losing my mind and am looking for some guidance. Thank you in advance for any wisdom and advice shared. I appreciate it.

“Our sex drives are not compatible”

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My 23-year-old boyfriend has almost no sex drive and I have a high sex drive. He is kind to me and can be emotionally supportive, but our sex drives are not compatible.

After moving in together, we have had sex even less than our every 1-2 weeks. I want 3-4 times a week. I don’t know if I should feel like a terrible person for wanting to find someone who shows that they enjoy /appreciate my sexiness.

“My wife is mad that I helped my mom out”

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So here’s my situation… I’m wondering if you guys think that this is absurd or whether I did something wrong.

In a nutshell, my older sister (34) passed away unexpectedly last week. My mother was obviously very upset, so I left work early to see her that day. Around dinner time, I went to the kitchen to cook her some dinner and realized that she was pretty much out of groceries. So, I ran to the store, picked up some dinner, and then bought her about $85 worth of food to keep her going for a few more days.

Fast forward to tonight. My wife, after analyzing our online banking transactions, comes downstairs and is LIVID after finding out that I spent $85 on groceries for my mom. After laying into me for a bit, she tells me that I am not to waste our money like that, and that my mother is taking advantage of me. She also told me to ask her to pay us back.

We’re not exactly struggling. My family income is about 85k annually, of which my job generates about 80%. My mom is divorced and makes somewhere around 22-24k.

Was I wrong here? I feel like this was just a small way for me to help in a time of need….

“Grad school is stressing me out and I’m lonely”

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Grad school has taken such a toll on me. I am earning a doctorate. I just moved back in with my parents so I can finish writing so I can get my degree ahead of schedule. I ended a relationship of four years in my first year of phd, and ever since I’ve been keeping a loop of guys to release some tension.

But now… I’ve never been more lonely. I moved out of the big city into a small town so I don’t have to stay in this program for the 6 yrs allotted (currently in my fourth). My day consists of waking up, French Lessons, working on my doc until 6, working out, dinner with the parents, sleep. I love this routine and I can see my progress, but I am so alone! I rationalised doing this for 6 months so I can pump out this baby and start my next step, but longing for human connection (beyond my wonderful parents) is making me unbelievably sad!

I can’t take on a relationship right now, and I left my hook-up loop players back in the big city. Any suggestions on how to alleviate some of this loneliness without jeopardising my routine?

Thanks!

Pre-doc saddy

“I’m scared that it could be depression”

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Over the last few days, I’ve become reluctant to hang out with my friends. To all intents and purposes, I’m an extrovert, and I love being the center of attention. However, when I was invited to a sleepover at my closest friend’s house, I was dreading going for some reason, even after I got there.

When I got there, I was very quick to retreat into a shell of self-isolation. I don’t think I talked to anyone substantially with the exception of one friend at the sleepover. Having said that, the only things I really talked about with her was her new boyfriend and how much I didn’t want to be at the sleepover. Continue reading →

“My ex wants to shag his colleague”

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Me and my ex broke up over the weekend but we are still living together as tied by a contract.

He works with a guy who he has never spoken to or socialised with online before all their interactions have been at work or with work colleagues on social events.

Within hours this guy messaged my partner on Facebook, which my partner showed me, and was the first communication ever sent between the two. That night my partner proceeded to tell me this guy was flirting, and after three days they are talking non stop.

He says the guy is just cheering him up, and is a friend even though they went from never communicating online to non stop as soon as we broke up.

While we was together my partner told me they had top 5 shag lists and this guy was on his, and he regrets not sleeping with him when he was single.

I’m devastated that it feels like he moved on within hours, and just can’t believe when he says it’s innocent.

“The guy I was seeing died from an overdose”

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Hi guys! I actually had something very tragic happen to me. I could really use some advice. The guy who I was seeing recently died from an overdose. I am very upset, but here’s the twist, he actually died next to another woman!

He decided to block and ignore me 5 days before this occurred. I guess he was planning on having a fling and then coming back. I’m not sure whether I should be more angry or sad. Right now I’m a mix of both. I have no idea how to cope and cut my losses. He broke a lot of promises. He could have actually ended things with me and tell me that he moved on, but he didn’t do that, he kept me on the back burner. How should I cope with this?

“My boyfriend cheated on me”

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years and we have a daughter together. Well I just found out that he cheated on me 2 years ago with a girl that he told me he’s never been with.

I’ve also caught him, not too long ago, messaging girls on a dating website asking for pictures. I don’t know if I should leave him or not. I do love him but I’m not the type of person to stay with someone that has cheated. What should I do?

“I want to be more than just friends”

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I met my best guy friend, J, in February through match.com. We immediately clicked, had common interests, similar morals, and communicate well. We both are interested in each other, but he does not want to jeopardize our great relationship that we have as friends.

A lot of it has to do with his prior relationships and being hurt by them; and also them never speaking to him since. He doesn’t want that to happen with us. He also has episodes of clinical depression which contributes to this thinking of his. His last relationship ended a little over a year ago and lasted 8 years. My last relationship was over 3 years ago and I’ve dated a lot if anyone was wondering. I feel like he is what I’ve been looking for. I am 34 and he is 32, so we are not teenagers or in our early 20s either. I want to keep him in my life and will stay friends with him, but does anyone think there is a chance he will change his mind in the future?