I met my best guy friend, J, in February through match.com. We immediately clicked, had common interests, similar morals, and communicate well. We both are interested in each other, but he does not want to jeopardize our great relationship that we have as friends.

A lot of it has to do with his prior relationships and being hurt by them; and also them never speaking to him since. He doesn’t want that to happen with us. He also has episodes of clinical depression which contributes to this thinking of his. His last relationship ended a little over a year ago and lasted 8 years. My last relationship was over 3 years ago and I’ve dated a lot if anyone was wondering. I feel like he is what I’ve been looking for. I am 34 and he is 32, so we are not teenagers or in our early 20s either. I want to keep him in my life and will stay friends with him, but does anyone think there is a chance he will change his mind in the future?