Category: Advice Needed

“I’m trapped in a relationship with an emotional bully”

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I feel trapped in my life. I’m stuck in a relationship with the father of my son, and it’s miserable. I can’t stand him and he can be an emotional bully, but we live together, and I feel like financially, I have no other options. I’m already living paycheck-to-paycheck.

I want to move down south, but can’t because I feel too guilty taking my son away from his family. I still have strong feelings for a guy I was briefly dating, who remains a friend, that I chat with every now and then, but, I know I don’t have a shot with him romantically. My job stresses me out to no end. I feel like I’m always unhappy and drowning.

I know what would make me happy but it’s all out of reach. I feel like I have nowhere to turn or anyone to talk to so I just keep it all bottled up.

“He handcuffed me, then had sex with another woman in front of me”

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Last night I was humiliated, degraded, and cheated.

It was mine and my husband’s 13-year anniversary. We went to a nice restaurant. We ate and had some drinks, and then my husband, Mike, whispered to me that he has something special planned for tonight.

I got really excited and nervous. When we got home he told me to go get comfortable on the bed for my surprise, so I did. At this point I was so excited. I heard the front door open, then close. I was on the bed and he came upstairs and said, “your surprise has arrived”. He said, first, though, he wanted to blindfold me and handcuff both my hands to the bed. I was a little confused, but I let him. Once handcuffed to the bed, and blindfold, he said he’s going to get my present. He came back two minutes later.

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“He seems like a great guy, but I can’t get over my trust issues”

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I have a rather complicated story, but I really need some advice, so please bear with me! I met a guy about three weeks ago on a dating app, and on the first date, he established that he was looking for a serious relationship, and not just a hookup. Since then, we’ve been seeing each other and speaking quite a lot over the phone (which is very unusual for me).

We share a lot of common interests, and so far he has been a very nice guy. A few days ago, he asked me if I wanted to go exclusive with him, and in the spur of the moment I said yes. Now I’m beginning to wonder if it was the right thing to do. I know it is unfair for me to judge him based on my past relationships (I was cheated on by my now ex-fiancé, and I was abused for many years by a male relative in my childhood).

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“My boyfriend says I deserve better than him”

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My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years. I am still madly in love with him, but lately he has been doubting our future. He says that he has fears and doubts about our future together, but right now he still loves me.

He believes that I deserve better than him because he thinks he cannot give me the things I want from life. I disagree because he is everything I ever wanted and more. The thought of us not being together makes me sick to my stomach. Part of me is wondering if this is just phase he is going through that will pass over time, but another part of me is worried that all this questioning will cause more problems.

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“My boyfriend starts fights with me and never apologises”

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I’ve been in a relationship for 18 months, with a boy I love dearly. But, if we ever argue, he is the one starting it, because I have done something that annoys him. It’s never the other way around. I’ll just deal with it.

He always makes me feel bad, saying things like, “thanks for trying,” or, “don’t worry, I’ll do everything,” in what feels like a very condescending way, and when I bring it up, he will never apologise.

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“I have a crush on a guy with a girlfriend”

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Recently, I started volunteer work, and I met this amazing, quirky, cute guy. I know we like each other, but, the problem is that he has a girlfriend.

I don’t want to be the kind of girl to break them up, but I can’t seem to get him out of my head, and need advice as to what to do. Please help.

“My husband told me he enjoys not having me around”

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I’ve been married for a year now, and for the last six months, my husband keeps giving me the excuse of being too busy and stressed out to spend any time with me.

He will make plans to go to concerts and dinner with his daughter and friends, but 100% of the time, he says he cannot commit to doing anything with me.

He owns a restaurant and comes home very late — usually past midnight. He spends a lot of time on his phone (on Facebook) to unwind. I go to bed alone, every-single-night not knowing when he is coming home.

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“He left me, but still wants to be friends”

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I have been with the same guy for eight years, and we have been engaged for four years. We just recently bought a house together.

On my way back home from a business trip, he texted me and said he was unhappy and wanted to end everything. He doesn’t want to try to work on things. He says he loves me, but, can’t do it anymore. We decided to sell the house, and one week later, he has started to date a girl he used to sext all the time, apparently completely unrelated (according to him).

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