I have a rather complicated story, but I really need some advice, so please bear with me! I met a guy about three weeks ago on a dating app, and on the first date, he established that he was looking for a serious relationship, and not just a hookup. Since then, we’ve been seeing each other and speaking quite a lot over the phone (which is very unusual for me).
We share a lot of common interests, and so far he has been a very nice guy. A few days ago, he asked me if I wanted to go exclusive with him, and in the spur of the moment I said yes. Now I’m beginning to wonder if it was the right thing to do. I know it is unfair for me to judge him based on my past relationships (I was cheated on by my now ex-fiancé, and I was abused for many years by a male relative in my childhood).
On the one hand, he is adorable, well-read, pretty sorted in life, and very affectionate. We match on an intellectual level and I love spending time with him, but on the other, I can’t get over the lack of trust I’ve had in men (with the cheating and the abuse) for so many years, and I can’t help feeling we made a rash decision by going exclusive in just under three weeks. What should I do?