I’ve been in a relationship for 18 months, with a boy I love dearly. But, if we ever argue, he is the one starting it, because I have done something that annoys him. It’s never the other way around. I’ll just deal with it.
He always makes me feel bad, saying things like, “thanks for trying,” or, “don’t worry, I’ll do everything,” in what feels like a very condescending way, and when I bring it up, he will never apologise.
The worst argument we’ve ever had was over an unclean fridge (so stupid). I started to fight against him, because I felt I didn’t deserve to be spoken to in that way, and he then squared up to me with his hands around my neck.
I left the house and waited for him to apologise. After him telling me that I started it, he finally did. I’m not scared of him, I don’t think what happened a few months ago will happen again, but he refuses to apologise for anything, and continues to upset me with the way he speaks to me.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. To make matters worse, he is my boss, and I don’t want to lose my job if I break up with him.