My platonic female friend (I am also female) has been flirting with me almost non-stop. We’ve been friends for a very long time, and I’ve made it clear that I’m only interested in men. I admit that I’m disgusted to think of her romantically, but she really can’t take the hints that I’m giving her. This isn’t something I’d like to stop our friendship over, but how would you suggest that I get her to stop?
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“He used to be the man of my dreams”
I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years. I am currently 26. When I was a teenager, he was the man of my dreams, but as we aged and matured, we’ve became roommates that hold each other down from actual love possibilities, for convenience of our children and living situation.
He feels differently, though. This weekend we had an argument about something stupid. And he left. I figured a hour or two to blow off steam. But when I woke at 5 am, he was nowhere to be found. Instant panic attack. I called , phone’s off …
He strolled in at 2 pm. After hours of mixed emotions and thoughts of where he could possibly be. He told me he was at the hospital. I’ve already basically premeditated his funeral, mentally prepared to be a single mom, and had a partial break down. Inside , the damage was done. He left. He didn’t call. He turned his phone off. I wrote him a proper notice to leave , and slept alone last night. Continue reading
“My mom gets mad at me for yelling at my boyfriend”
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. Our anniversary is the end of February. We have had some major problems, I have bipolar disorder and used to get really mad and even yell at him over stupid shit. I wouldn’t call it abuse, but it definitely wasn’t nice. He stole money from a friend’s grandmother. His friend not mine. He got mad over a Facebook post and left for four days and wouldn’t tell me where he went. He told me 6 months later that he cheated on me.
That was a year ago. I stayed because I love him and I honestly feel that he will try to be better and so far he has. He has been honest with me this far. He told me the night he stole the money, he told me about cheating. I never had to find anything out from someone other than him. It’s been a rocky road. I want to marry him despite all of the stuff I just wrote. I love him and I trust that he is doing all he can to be a better person. Continue reading
“I slept with a guy I met at a conference”
I went to this international scientific conference halfway around the world from where I am from. On the first day of the conference, I met this awesome guy whom I have connected with during that night’s social event. We connected so well that we ended up being the last ones to go from the conference hall. The night ended with a friendly hug.
Then the second day came, we saw each other again (it was a relatively small crowd so it was inevitable to miss people). The conference being an opportunity to network and meet other people, I tried to open myself and converse with other humans. However, every time I tried to strike a conversation with anyone (especially males) he’d always be there to try and befriend the guys I am talking to or just plainly steal the conversation and grabbing my attention. He invited me to hang out with him the second night, but I accidentally stood him up because I fell asleep (credits to jet lag). Continue reading
“My fiancé has no sex drive”
Me and my fiancée have been together for about three years. We are still madly in love and everything is going well, except the sex. About a year-and-a-half ago, we started having sex less and it’s just decreased until the sex is now non-existent. He insists it’s nothing to do with me and he still tells me I’m beautiful and compliments me. I’ve tried talking to him so many times in so many different ways, but he just makes up different excuses all the time. He acknowledges that the sex has stopped and says he misses it, but then doesn’t do anything about it. I’ve tried coming onto him and he just turns me down. I don’t want to have to end the relationship, as I love him, we’re engaged and own a house together, but, how can I go on like this? Eventually it will take its toll and I’m starting to think about having sex with other men. I’d never cheat on him but the fact I’m thinking about it is bad enough.
“How do I get out of the friend zone?”
I’m crazy over this girl who I’ve know for years. She has me friend-zoned. I’ve told her before about my feelings and it didn’t work. So we’re still really close and she texts/snapchats me all the time and is constantly looking for my attention, but keeps me friend-zoned. I think maybe she is waiting for me to mature a little because, I can admit, she’s a lot more mature than me. I’m more into partying and drinking, and she’s more into studying and going to bed at nine o’clock.
We’re both 21, and I really think it could work between us. I don’t let the fact that I have feelings for her stop me from living my life. I’m open to meeting other girls, but, if she ever called me I’d leave any date at the drop of a dime. I’ve tried forgetting her and ignoring her, but I’ve never lasted more than a few days.
I wanna give up so badly but at the same time I’m clinging on to the little hope I have. One night we were both talking about how lonely we were and she told me that she wished she had more options and wouldn’t have to settle and that really hurt. But you can’t force anyone to like you and can’t get mad if they don’t. My analysis of the whole thing is she keeps me wanting her by giving me just enough of her attention but keeps me friend-zoned.
“I have a crush on my boss”
So, I started working my current job when I was 18. I’d never had any sexual/romantic interest in another person at this point in my life, and never thought I would, until I met my boss.
He was a breath of fresh air compared to the younger boys I worked with, had a great sense of humor and was really easy to tease/get flustered, which I enjoyed. He’d tell me I was like a little sister, easy to read. But like most of these stories go, he was already in a relationship.
He would randomly mention his fiancee when we spoke so I took that as a signal to stop speaking to him so much, which I respectively did even changing shifts to give him space. Some months went by and it was kind of awkward between us because a mutual friend had told him I was crushing on him and he kept asking why I was dodging him, he felt lonely. Continue reading
“I need advice on my schooling/employment conundrum”
27 year-old male from Greece, trying to get my future together and I need some good advice.
I was born and raised in a great family enviroment, not wealthy, but fair, and enough to keep me going with great support!
I studied IT tech at technical college at 2007 and been working as a computers technician for the past eight years. Due to my coutry’s condition and foreseeing a not-so-great future in tech support, I decided to follow a spark of mine and study programming in a University by placing all of my resources (plus an investment plan of my parents. I started the University a year ago achieving excellent grades and the investment plan went off I have the money to pay exactly the amount needed for the following two years. The past year and more I’ve been working at companies that didn’t hire me to get insuransed (which is very common) but still I am trying to collect work and knowledge to keep myself running and by the time I’ve developed some new skills that keep the gears moving. The following winter my support insurance will be terminated which is not something that I am well with. Tomorrow I have a job interview for a night shift IT support which is a great opportunity to solve all of these problems. Continue reading
“I feel completely alone right now”
I feel completely alone right now. I love my boyfriend deeply, but, recently, I found him texting another girl after a night out. He’s cheated before, but, foolishly, I forgave him. He says he’s sorry, but, I just don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t understand what I did wrong for him to cheat on me. And now every time that he leaves to a friend’s or his cousin’s house, and I think he’s cheating. I’m completely lost on what I should do.
“I don’t know what a normal home is”
My mom and I survived 23 years with my dad who was an abusive alcoholic narcissist. He left us about six months ago but that wasn’t the end of our problems. My mother is clinically depressed, has been diagnosed with PTSD and is prone to emotional outbursts. Sometimes she takes out her anger on me.
I am in college, but quite late, because I lost three years due to that arrogant asshole who calls himself my dad. Now we’re doing okay financially and all, but my mom has been through a string of relationships — two with married men — and each has left her more broken and depressed than before. The relationships were not physical but usually through chatting only. I can vouch for that. Continue reading
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