I need some advice… I don’t know what to do anymore… My boyfriend always spends more time with his best friend than with me. When we have plans to go somewhere together, he always picks his friend up before me, to spend more time together. I usually have to wait longer than the time he said he would be there.
Last week really did it for me… he invited me to a block party and then said he wasn’t going and ended up going with his friends anyway. He completely ignored me all afternoon and I started to get worried because it isn’t like him to do that, so I reached out to his friend to see if he had heard from him, since I knew he hasn’t been feeling well the day before. His friend saw my message and ignored it. I confronted my boyfriend about it and he said he was sorry, and wasn’t in the right state of mind, and he knew I asked his friend and he saw my messages but just ignored them because he was in a conversation with someone, and didn’t want to be rude by texting me.
I have recently asked him to go to a family event with me, and he refused, saying he doesn’t like to go and he isn’t going to put himself in an uncomfortable situation. He always says this when I ask him to go or something else comes up. I let him know that I am put in uncomfortable situations when he prefers his friend over me, and he said it is just my own insecurities. How do I explain to him that his choices with his friend are putting a strain on our relationship without him saying I put myself in that situation because I am insecure?