I have a friend who makes racist jokes towards me. I am half Asian/half white and one of my friends makes offensive Asian jokes and it can be quite hurtful. They don’t do it on purpose to upset me, but I’m pretty sick of it and wish they’d stop.
Should I speak to them about it or just cut them out? Are they a real friend if they say things like that to me?
Say it to them. Let them know the line you have but it doesn’t automatically mean they are racist. Some people have acceptable limits in comedy that they wouldn’t have outside of that so best be honest rather than assuming they mean it in a hurtful way.