“I’m in love with a felon”

I’ve fallen madly in love with a man who served 26.5 years in prison for a murder (gang related) he committed when he was 19. The ironic thing is I was dating him when this happened. He pursued me for years before I would take him serious. He was trying to quit the gang life for himself and me.

I wrote him for a year and moved on with my life. Decades later he paroled and found me. He said he never stopped looking for me and always thought of how things could have played out so differently if he wasn’t such a fool as a kid. When we are together it’s like we are teenagers again. Continue reading

“I’ve lost my self-worth after sleeping with a married man’

So to keep it short, since about April I have been involved with a married man. He is 37, and I am 25. I too, am involved in a long term relationship so I guess we both could relate on some of the issues that we have been dealing with in the both of our relationships, which in turn sort of started the whole affair.

We both agreed to trying our best at not developing feelings, which was totally cool at first. But lately I’ve been having strong feelings. I feel a lot of guilt on so many levels, and I feel so worthless ever since we started sleeping together. Each time we have sex and he leaves, I can’t help but due to the shame that I feel. It’s like he takes a piece of me each and every single time he leaves after we are done.

I really want to break this off, especially knowing that our relationship will never be anything more than what it is. But sadly I have fallen for him. I have nobody to vent to, and it’s eating me up inside. I’m just curious as to how do I let this guy go? How do I emotionally and spiritually pick myself back up again? How do I get my self worth back again? He took it all from me.

“We are both having affairs; can we be together?”

I’m his Mistress and I’m married, but he’s finally divorced and starting a new job.

I know I shouldn’t expect anything different but we’ve been together for 3 years and he’s leaving to start a new job. On the one hand we’ll have more time together in the evenings because he’ll have his own place, but on the other hand he’ll be surrounded by new colleagues including women that will be interested in him since he’s attractive, successful and now technically single. Continue reading

“Is this child my husband’s or not?”

Here’s the deal: my husband had an affair with a married woman. We separated when I found out in the most horrific way and remained that way for over a year before reconciling. I now know everything about what happened and have moved past it.

Here’s my one problem. After we separated, he continued to see her for several months while she was still with her husband (both of them intimately). She got pregnant during that time and her husband refused to claim the baby was his, instead insisting it must be my husband’s, because it was born handicapped. There was never any sort of DNA testing done and the child was given up for adoption to a beautiful family (yes, I met them). My husband just wants to forget the whole thing and let it be, but I honestly don’t believe this child could possibly be his. It looks NOTHING like our children but identical to the other woman’s child with her husband. I want a DNA test done to confirm either way before I even begin thinking about telling our children about this other child. Am I crazy? Should we just move on like the kid doesn’t exist? How do I get him to do the DNA test?