“My coworkers make me feel like an outcast”

I started a new job and, unbeknown to me, there were two distinct social groups. I did not try or intend to, but I fell in with one group. It soon dawned on me that the two groups had an almost visceral dislike for each other.

Six months later, and within the space of a month, all the people from my group had quit or moved on to other positions. They were replaced by people who formed friendships with the second group. This has now left me alone and feeling somewhat of an outcast from the newly formed much larger single group. For reasons I won’t go into I cannot quit this job, as much as I would like to. I don’t know what I can do.

It is horrible, nobody talks to me and I am rebuffed whenever I try to engage with anyone. I feel stupid for saying this but I even feel I am being actively bullied by some members of the new group.  Thank you, any advice will be welcome.

“We are both having affairs; can we be together?”

I’m his Mistress and I’m married, but he’s finally divorced and starting a new job.

I know I shouldn’t expect anything different but we’ve been together for 3 years and he’s leaving to start a new job. On the one hand we’ll have more time together in the evenings because he’ll have his own place, but on the other hand he’ll be surrounded by new colleagues including women that will be interested in him since he’s attractive, successful and now technically single. Continue reading