“He holds money over me”

So my boyfriend and I have been together almost two years. Moved in together 8 months ago. I make significantly less money than him, and he makes significantly more than average. He pays the rent, I pay the rest of the bills (electric, water, trash, cable, etc). He always holds it over me that he pays for everything, while I do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, and such to make up for what I can’t pay.

Sometimes I feel like he needs to up his end, cook or clean, anything really. Also, my car needs tires, and he offered to buy (as my Xmas gift) USED tires for me…. I said no and that he’s being cheap but how do I go about getting him to be less stingy, and/or stop holding money over me??

 

“My newly divorced dad is falling apart”

I’m a 24 year old lesbian living with my dad. Just got out of the military 6 months ago. I have a job and help with bills etc. I moved back in with my newly divorced dad. Mom cheated. Now I’m seeing a whole new side of my dad that I don’t like. He gets new girlfriends and tries to show off in front of them by talking bad about how I’m messy (when he’s the messy one,) and tries to basically make me look like a child.

He went in my bathroom and showed her my dildo in the shower lol.. which I use to suction the drain shut. (I’m desperate) … Anyway, I’m just wondering if I’m over reacting or if that’s messed up? He also doesn’t care to spend time with me or my sisters. And spent all my grandma’s will money that she had saved for my mom. He can’t pay bills, so I’m helping, my wife is helping, and he continues to talk down to us. I don’t know what to do.

How to rebuild her trust?

I have been in a relationship with a girl for about 6 months. Everything has been great between us, but she has had many personal problems that she has had to deal with during that time. Mostly related to money.

We work at the same place, but different departments. I make much more than she does, and I have offered to help her many times because she means alot to me, but she has always turned down my help bease she didn’t want to be a pRobles for me.

A few weeks ago she told me about alot of new problems that came up, and I was worried about her, and if she was going to be ok. She made it sound like there was no way out of a bad situation. Eventually she didn’t want to talk to me about it anymore because she didn’t want to be a burden on me, and I just wanted to help in any way I could.

I was so worried, and felt like I had to do something, and I made the mistake of saying something to her manager about it. At the time it seemed like a good idea, because I know she really respected him and has confided in him about a lot of personal things in the past, but she saw it as me breaking her trust in something she told me in confidence. I’ve tried to appoligize, but she doesn’t want to talk to me about it. I know I did something stupid, but I wasn’t thinking clearly. All I did was worry constantly about what would happen to her and her kids, and in the fog of it all I had horrible judgment, and made a stupid choice despite my good intentions. Is there anything I can do to rebuild her trust in me? Even if she doesn’t want to be in a relationship, I really just want her to know that I never meant to hurt her, but I was just going crazy with worry, and I wasn’t thinking clearly, so I made a bad decision.