I have been in a relationship with a girl for about 6 months. Everything has been great between us, but she has had many personal problems that she has had to deal with during that time. Mostly related to money.
We work at the same place, but different departments. I make much more than she does, and I have offered to help her many times because she means alot to me, but she has always turned down my help bease she didn’t want to be a pRobles for me.
A few weeks ago she told me about alot of new problems that came up, and I was worried about her, and if she was going to be ok. She made it sound like there was no way out of a bad situation. Eventually she didn’t want to talk to me about it anymore because she didn’t want to be a burden on me, and I just wanted to help in any way I could.
I was so worried, and felt like I had to do something, and I made the mistake of saying something to her manager about it. At the time it seemed like a good idea, because I know she really respected him and has confided in him about a lot of personal things in the past, but she saw it as me breaking her trust in something she told me in confidence. I’ve tried to appoligize, but she doesn’t want to talk to me about it. I know I did something stupid, but I wasn’t thinking clearly. All I did was worry constantly about what would happen to her and her kids, and in the fog of it all I had horrible judgment, and made a stupid choice despite my good intentions. Is there anything I can do to rebuild her trust in me? Even if she doesn’t want to be in a relationship, I really just want her to know that I never meant to hurt her, but I was just going crazy with worry, and I wasn’t thinking clearly, so I made a bad decision.