My fiancée has been a teacher for 10 years now and is really frustrated because she feels stagnant in her career. She thinks she hasn’t advanced because she’s followed me around – first to a two-year MBA program where she taught at two different schools and now to a new city where I got a new job.
She really doesn’t enjoy this city and she’s had to start over at a new school again. She sees me take on a leadership role at my company and told me today that she resents it because she feels she can’t get traction anywhere, since she has to start over each year. She wants to leave this city and return to our hometown and argues that she followed me so I should follow her. However, I only started this job 6 months ago, and she doesn’t have a job back home. I don’t think it’s fair for me to leave my company this early. I understand her frustration and I’ve urged her to apply for leadership roles elsewhere, but she got really angry with me. She’s also concerned that it’s too late to even start a leadership trajectory because she wants to have kids in the next few years (we’re 31).
I ultimately acquiesced and told her that if she finds a job back home I’d quit and follow, but it didn’t satisfy her. I don’t know what to do.