My husband of two years doesn’t want to have sex with me. I’m a fairly attractive individual, and my husband has NO interest in sex at all. He watches porn all the time, but since he has touched me, it’s been around six months.
And before that, it was another four. We have had sex three times in the span of a year. He says it’s because he has gained weight (70 pounds) and he is ashamed of himself. His attitude towards me is still the same. He still jokes with me, and he’s still my best friend. I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong. I’ve tried coming onto him, wearing lingerie, buying toys, asking him if he wants to invite anyone else in… but nothing works. He doesn’t want anything to do with it. He is only 30, and should still have a healthy sex drive. Please help.
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At this point you may need to suggest couples therapy. Try scheduled sex nights first.
The problem is definitely not you, don’t ever think that. I do think couples therapy could be a good option. However, I have heard of cases where men have lower sex drives because they have depression or a testosterone deficiency; it can be quite common. Again, maybe couples therapy can help the both of you. It saved my parent’s marriage and they are happier than ever. Best of luck 🙂
That kind of weight gain? He needs to see a doctor and maybe a psychologist. Very likely has hormone (e.g., testosterone) issues.