“I’m ashamed of my mom as she keeps quitting her job”

My mom recently got a new job. She refills vending machines – and I’m really disappointed in her.  She started going to college to be an interior designer, she quit, worked at a restaurant, and quit. She’s working here, and who knows when she gives up next and what other job she will get.

I feel so embarrassed because I KNOW she can do so much better and do the job she loves (interior design,) but she just gave up. I know she’s trying to support the family with bills and stuff, but for the past 12 years my dad alone did it and we were just fine. I’m just really frustrated and ashamed because I know she’s capable of so much more.

“My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me”

My husband of two years doesn’t want to have sex with me. I’m a fairly attractive individual, and my husband has NO interest in sex at all. He watches porn all the time, but since he has touched me, it’s been around six months.

And before that, it was another four. We have had sex three times in the span of a year. He says it’s because he has gained weight (70 pounds) and he is ashamed of himself. His attitude towards me is still the same. He still jokes with me, and he’s still my best friend. I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong. I’ve tried coming onto him, wearing lingerie, buying toys, asking him if he wants to invite anyone else in… but nothing works. He doesn’t want anything to do with it. He is only 30, and should still have a healthy sex drive. Please help.

“I don’t know if I should talk to him about his alcoholism”

I’ve been talking to this guy for a couple of months now. We’re pretty close and both of us have made it clear that we have feelings for each other. It just so happened that in the beginning of us getting to know each other, he had a sort-of/kind-of girlfriend (basically she really liked him and he felt obligated to stay with her and it was super weird.)

They recently ended things and we’ve gotten much closer. While we’re still friends we talk about dating a lot. Well, while at a Basketball tournament, he was caught with a group of our mutual friends drinking in their hotel room and he apparently was the one who somehow got a hold of the beer. He was asked to leave the tournament early and his mom had to drive four hours there and back to get him. (I only know because one of my best friends’ mom told me, not knowing that me and this guy are really close.) Continue reading