I have a new girlfriend, we have been dating for about a month. but some of my friends demand that I break up with her, or else I will lose theirs and many others, respect. Why?
One night, a bunch of friends gathered at the beach, late in the night. I was busy the following day so I didn’t go. This gathering lasted from about 12 to 4pm. My girlfriend secretly took her dad’s car to drive to the beach. She has no licence, and not much experience (we’re both 16.) Once the night was over, many of her girlfriends got drunk, I’m not sure if she was drinking or not. She had to drive her friends back home, probably just to her house. One of her friends told one of my friends about the night, and described how she got home and the way my girlfriend was driving. She wasn’t angry at her, she said she found it fun and it was crazy. She was driving unlicensed, she ran several red lights and was driving on the wrong side of the road supposedly.
I know that she put her life and her friend’s lives in danger. The argument that my friends are putting forward is that what she did was absolutely crazy, and that they can’t even imagine how I could be dating a girl so reckless and stupid. Yet they don’t even know her, and she definitely isn’t crazy. I tell them no one got injured, and nothing bad happened. I told them if I talked to her about it I could prevent her from doing something like that again.
They say that it still doesn’t change the fact that she almost got herself and her friends killed. They say that I’m just trying to defend her. How can they judge someone like that over one stupid decision? Which can be prevented from happening again? They say that they have lost all respect for me if I stay with her. I asked one of them what he would do if his girlfriend did that, and he said that even if she ran a single red light he would leave her, because she is risking her life and other people’s. I think that’s bullshit. I feel like I’m being held against my will. I’m torn between this girl and all my friends.
Either way I will be heartbroken. I don’t want this to end either way, so I’m trying to reason with my friends. They say nothing is going to change their views. They try to make me feel guilty, saying ” it’s either your friends since you’ve known from the start of high school, or some chick you’ve dated a few times.” I really don’t know what to do, I don’t want to lose either of them.