Okay, so I’ve recently befriended this 20-year-old Christian male. I’m male, too, and also a Christian. I’ve always had feelings for females, never males. But now that we’ve started talking, every day we always have a really good time.
We’ve talked about the subject of homosexuality and if we were accepting or not of it, and we both are. The thing is, we are fairly new friends, but I’ve never felt like this in my life. And it’s not just sexually-thinking, it’s genuine-thinking. I want to go see movies with him, and cuddle. I don’t want to sound like I’m stereotyping, but he did sorta come across gay when I met him. But we’ve talked about his past relationships and how he’s still in love with his ex-girlfriend, who’s very much moved on. I want to let our friendship grow, but all I want to do is flirt and talk to him about how freaking perfect he is to me.
First, just because you’re experiencing homosexual feels does not mean you have to define yourself by them.
I know a gay couple, where one guy has only ever been attracted to one male, the one he’s in a relationship with.
Now, it’s tricky to relay feelings like this without really knowing if the other person feels the same.
Especially seeing as you’re both straight males, Christian, and he’s pining over his ex.
Remember though, this is not about anyone else but you and him.
Talk to him, like you have been. Feel it out, like you have been. Think about it, like you have been.
And when you feel secure and confident that it won’t effect your friendship if he doesn’t feel the same, then try talking to him.
Because the only way you’ll ever truly know if he feels the same if by asking him.
Best of luck, and don’t be in a rush to define who you are because you have feelings.
I just want to wish you good luck. internet hug