“My best friend is with a guy I like”

My roommate and I are both 22 year old women. We’ve both had a crush on the same guy (a friend from an event we do) for a while. She’s hot, I’m the DUFF. A long time ago, when we both admitted we liked him, she made us make a pact that we would be happy for the other one if the relationship happened for them.

I knew in that moment that I didn’t stand a chance, but I still held on to stupid hope. She decided to make a move on him at a party and, surprise surprise, turns out he likes her back. I want to be supportive of my best friend being happy, but it’s really difficult to hear them making out or wonder when the right time for me to leave the room is if we’re all hanging out at our house. Continue reading

“He asked me to live with him, but maybe as a friend”

I have a friend, call him P. He is 36 I’m 28. I think he knows I’m gay, but I didn’t answer him when he asked and joked about how he would have to get me a girlfriend. I’ve still not told anyone, as I’m unsure how most of my friends will react. I have known P for some years, and he has never seen me in a relationship.

I came back to England to visit and stay with him and a friend (call him Q 4) months ago. Q is straight and not 100% comfortable with gays. I ended up staying and looking for a job.

Just after Christmas, they had a fight, with the end being Q wanting P to move out. I heard it, but kept out of the way. After all of this, P said he was moving, and now, he has found a new flat. Continue reading

“I’m in love with my flatmate”

I share a flat with one other gay guy, and I’ve totally fallen head over heels for him.

We’re similar ages, body shapes/sizes and have similar interests. We’ve shared our living space since the end of May, but I’m finding myself falling harder and harder each day.

He’s quite hard to read, but is always very flirty. He shows little sign of obvious desire, but drops the odd hint here and there. We’re both also on gay hookup apps, which he’s on very regularly, but seems to meet very few people from (of what I know anyway!)

Things are going really well and we’re getting to know each other more and more as time goes on (we didn’t know each other before moving in together) but I don’t know what to do…?!

Do I build on the friendship and just hope and pray that it blossoms into something, or am I upfront and more direct about my feelings and what I want, but potentially make the currently great living situation very awkward…?!

Would appreciate some advice!