“I’ve fallen in love with a guy I’ve never met, who lives in another country”

I met a guy four days ago online, and we have been talking ever since. He was looking for a relationship, but I wasn’t, so I told him we could be just friends. He is nice to me, and he is a gentleman as well. He will be relocating to my country in September, and I’m the only person he knows here.

All of a sudden, I found myself liking him, and getting upset when he doesn’t text me. It’s been only four days, and I don’t know what’s happening.

Another problem is that he is 34, and I will be turning 20 next month. I’ve been single all my life and suffered from depression. I haven’t planned on having a relationship because one moment I feel like dating, and the next moment I wanna be single. I’m so confused, it’s like I don’t know what I want. Even if there should be a relationship between us someday, what about the age difference? What should I do?

4 thoughts on ““I’ve fallen in love with a guy I’ve never met, who lives in another country”

  1. Drew says:

    Please run away as fast as you can. You are not in love – 4 days of some texting/internet messaging is not nearly enough to fall in love with someone. You are wildly infatuated by the idea of this guy. I also smell something “scammy” here – he’s now moving to your country and knows no one else? Why is he moving? Why doesn’t he know anyone else?
    I’m not familiar with depression and it’s symptoms or how it manifests itself, but I would guess that somehow that is contributing here too.
    Please, protect yourself and run away from this guy.

  2. Ken says:

    Please please please do not go through with this. He is not going to be good for you, no matter what.

    So many red flags it’s hard to count. Save yourself some torture. Seriously.

  3. Ellen says:

    Unfortunately I have to agree with everyone so far, this is more than likely a ‘catfish’ scam. There are several things that are ‘a’ typical for catfishing – out of the country, an onslaught of over the top communication of the emotional type which gets you hooked (dealing with depression does not help you on this point as you may be hungry for validation) and the promise of ‘one day’ relocating to where you are. Once they have you emotionally invested they will begin to ask for personal information, photos and even money. DO NOT FALL FOR THIS. It may not even be a guy to begin with. There are more women catfishers coming on the scene these days. Another red flag is a man will never get emotional with you in a few days time. Now, if you choose to move forward regardless of the flags here a few things you can do to help prove to yourself he is who he says he is – 1) make him Skype so you can see him in real time, 2) make him send you a photo and then sign up to Socialcatfish.com and reverse image search it, 3) Look to see if he has several social platforms in use and if they are legit profiles, 4) Google the h*ll out of him – his profession, name, location etc. How can I tell you all of this? Because I was catfished myself. I know the signs. Luckily I got out before any damage was done because I reverse searched his image. Your heart will get over it I promise and love will find you as it does all of us eventually. Don’t give up because you are worth it, ok? You are worth more than some random unseen guy whom you have never laid eyes on. You are validated and affirmed JUST BECAUSE YOU EXIST. Anyway, hope this helps and good luck. šŸ™‚

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