I have been dating this guy for six months now. We’ve already had sex … too soon, I know. But every time I ask if we should start being official, he keeps telling me it’s not the right time yet. What should i do?
I have been dating this guy for six months now. We’ve already had sex … too soon, I know. But every time I ask if we should start being official, he keeps telling me it’s not the right time yet. What should i do?
Tell him you’ve been dating for 6 months and it SHOULD be official. Otherwise you’re going to feel insecure and like he’s shying away from commitment.
Also, don’t think it’s too soon, UNLESS YOU’RE not comfortable with it. If you wanted to do it then, that’s totally fine. People put too much expectation on WHEN you should do it, but it’s your body and it’s what you want. There’s only a problem if you feel uncomfortable and if you didn’t want to do it in the first place.
I agree with Elm here. If you’re comfortable with the decision then go for it. If you’re not, then don’t.
If you want to be in a committed relationship with him and he doesn’t then you may need to consider ending it with him. It is perfectly reasonable, IMHO, to draw a line that says “I’m not comfortable with a sexual relationship that is not a committed relationship.” Just from a practical point of view there are a LOT of biological/medical reasons to draw this line. But as Elm said, it is YOUR body – you get to set the rules.
I think you should realize you’re probably getting played.