“My life is a mess and I’m completely lost”

I’m completely lost. I don’t know what to do. I feel like my life is a never ending spiral of failures. I’m 16 and I know, “I have my whole life ahead of me”, but do I really? Every single Honors student know what they want to do with their lives, and then there’s me. To be honest, I don’t even think I’ll live past age 20, let alone finish College and University.

My mom hates me. She keeps me as a prisoner in my own house. And that’s not to sound dramatic or anything, I’m actually not allowed to leave the house. I couldn’t even go to my friend’s graduation back in May. She never let me leave the house over my summer break, she doesn’t let me hang out with my friends.

I’m a good girl, good grades, top test scores, AP classes, but none of that means anything apparently. To her, I’m just a sex crazed idiot like “teenagers are supposed to be.” She won’t even let me get a job. And there’s the fact that she constantly cheats on my dad and forces me to keep it a secret (this has been going on since I was about 7.)

I get bullied. Endless racial jokes about me being Mexican, come at about every second. And if it’s not a racist joke, it’s some insult about how I’m a ‘prude.’ It’s gotten to the point that I can hear their words when they’re not around. I feel like the walls around me are quickly closing in and I have nowhere to go. Please, what am I supposed to do?

“Is my friend racist?”

I have a friend who makes racist jokes towards me. I am half Asian/half white and one of my friends makes offensive Asian jokes and it can be quite hurtful. They don’t do it on purpose to upset me, but I’m pretty sick of it and wish they’d stop.

Should I speak to them about it or just cut them out? Are they a real friend if they say things like that to me?

“My racist parents are ruining my relationship”

I’ll just keep it simple here. I am a white female and I have a crush on a black male. This is perfectly normal and I am not racist and am accepting of all people. My parents on the other hand, are very racist, to the point where they remind me by threatening me to not be interested in anybody but white guys.

I really have a good thing going with this black boy that I really like but I don’t know what to do.¬†They won’t change their views but I’m 17 and have my own opinions and I am my own person. They can’t force their views onto me. And I’m not going to let them stand in the way of something like this over something as ridiculous as skin color… any advice?