I’ll just keep it simple here. I am a white female and I have a crush on a black male. This is perfectly normal and I am not racist and am accepting of all people. My parents on the other hand, are very racist, to the point where they remind me by threatening me to not be interested in anybody but white guys.
I really have a good thing going with this black boy that I really like but I don’t know what to do. They won’t change their views but I’m 17 and have my own opinions and I am my own person. They can’t force their views onto me. And I’m not going to let them stand in the way of something like this over something as ridiculous as skin color… any advice?
2 thoughts on ““My racist parents are ruining my relationship””
If you are still living with them and they are supporting you by paying for anything, wait until you are no longer supported by them to pursue this relationship, otherwise they will hold that over your head. If this is meant to be then he will be there when you are free. You’re 17 so college is a good time to break free. Good luck!
First off, do not call him “this black boy”, and never say, “I am not racist”, because white people who say that almost always have racist tendencies (this is coming from a poc, yours truly.)
I think by now, some time has passed, and if you’re still together with him, you need to have a heart-to-heart discussion with your parents. You need to be confrontational and patient, and you need to know how to reason and defend your arguments—and your guy.