“My brother’s been looking at our mom, naked”

This is a really uncomfortable situation I am in, and I have been debating constantly about what I should do for the past couple of days.

 My younger brother is 4 years younger than me, and we used to be pretty close growing up. Now that I am in college and have moved away we aren’t as close, but we do still talk often.

Well, I came home for the weekend and was bored, so I logged into his computer to play some video games. He wasn’t home and gave me his password beforehand. Right when I logged in I saw that he had a folder named L on his desktop. I know it’s fucked up to invade my brother’s privacy, but my curiosity got to the best of me and I opened it. Continue reading

“I don’t trust him sexually or financially”

(Disclaimer! This is a male/male same-sex relationship)

I’m engaged to someone I don’t trust sexually or financially. We will have been together two years at the end of October this year, and he proposed a few weeks ago. Another bit of information is he has a neurological disorder that can cause tremors every so often, and he can become highly sensitive to certain sensations like water, soap, a sudden cold breeze. This doesn’t appear to be all that often, I’d say once or twice a day he will experience these things. He also has a daughter that is 7 years old, the result of a boozy encounter with one of his friends. Continue reading

“I found pics in his phone of his stepsister in a bikini”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. I recently found a section of his notepad on his phone where he was keeping nude pictures of porn stars. I also happened to find pics of his stepsister in a bikini. What do I do? Before this, we never had any trust issues, but now I’m just disgusted. I love him and don’t want to just give up, but should I?

“Does my boyfriend watch too much porn?”

Is it normal that my boyfriend watches porn, usually in the morning in the shower while I’m asleep? We have been together for a little under a year. Just recently I have found out that he watches it, even after he and I have had sex before sleeping — sometimes three times a day. I tried to talk to him about it, and he says it’s nothing or just doesn’t want to talk about it. He says it’s normal.

I understand that watching porn and masturbating are normal and should not affect the relationship. But with him, it’s constant. I feel like I’m not enough, not pretty enough to meet whatever needs he has in watching porn. In my last relationship, my ex-boyfriend was not like this, so I know not all men are this way. I also catch him looking at other women when we go out. Any bit of advice would help. Thank you.