My boyfriend refuses to talk to me about anything anymore. We’re always arguing, even though we never used to. I just feel so useless, everything I do upsets or annoys him, but he is a really nice person.
It’s a good relationship, but I’m just not sure how long we’ve got left anymore (and it’s not just me wondering that).
And to top it off? I’ve been slightly losing feelings for him… and developing them for one of his good friends…
what do I do??
Hello. 🙂 I need some advice please. There’s this boy in my first period class I think is very cute. The only thing is, he’s Hungarian and doesn’t speak English very well, so he doesn’t talk much. When we make eye contact, I try to smile and he smiles back, and I often try to get his attention in other ways, too, but he doesn’t seem to notice.
I thought maybe it was because I wasn’t his type, so I’ll describe myself to you. I’m a girl, 16 years old, black (Nigerian American) and 5’3″. My hair is currently in long black braids. I would say I’m pretty facially, but I do wear makeup to fill in my brows and cover up dark spots and acne scars (i have a lot of discoloration). I definitely don’t think I’m ugly though. I’m not really slim but I’m also not fat — just your average girl with some concealable belly fat. My skin shade is not very dark but also not light either. I would say I’m about the same shade as Kelly Rowland or slightly lighter. Continue reading
I have known this guy M since 2010, and we have been friends since. However, we did move away for a few years and both recently moved back to the same city, so our contact has been off and on for a long time.
Earlier this year in April, we started meeting up with one another, and I have always thought he was a good-looking man, but after seeing him this time, I was very attracted to him in a way I had not been before when we first met back in 2010. Anyways, since April we have started seeing each other regularly — hanging out and going out once or twice a week — and have gotten very close. We completely trust each other, we discovered we have a lot in common and expect the same thing out of relationships.
One day we were hanging out watching a movie, and he started holding my hand, so I was really excited, because I was thinking “holy crap he must have feelings for me.” Since then, we have been cuddling, and he’s started showing me a lot of affection. Sometimes I stay overnight and we cuddle and sleep. We however have never been sexual. He has kissed me on the face and playfully bit me on the neck once. When we cuddle, he touches my hips, so to me, that is more than just friendly, right? Continue reading
I just started a new job at the beginning of the summer, and globally everything has been going pretty well: I’ve developed friendships with a lot of my colleagues, and I also enjoy the casual work environment and the work itself a lot. However, there is this one colleague that always made me a little nervous and self-conscious; it doesn’t help that he was the one who mostly trained me when I arrived (we work on the same project). I always thought he had a dreamy smile and I kind-of feel attracted to his personality and his intelligence. However, lately this little attraction has grown into a full blown crush that is making my life in the office difficult, plus I feel super guilty because I already have a wonderful partner of three years whom I am deeply in love with and feel lucky to have. Obviously, I don’t want this crush-thing to go anywhere romantically-speaking. I’ve read a bit online and I know that crushes can happen even when you are already committed; it doesn’t change the fact that it doesn’t feel good. I tried rechanneling this excitement and extra energy into my relationship, and everything is going pretty well on that front. It is more the work-related consequences of this attraction that worry me. Continue reading
Why are my crush’s friends acting so weird? And they’re actually my friends too. I’m a freshman girl and I have a crush on my sorority president. Let’s call her Naomi, and it seems like she likes me too. She usually gives me intense stares, checks me out, and accidentally (not accidentally at all) bumped into my arm and kept her arm touching mine until she left — bearing in mind that we were outside in the open and it was just like a dozen girls there.
She also gives me this look where its like, her mouth is open and she lowers her eyelids … anyway I’m friends with two of her friends. Lets call them Annie and Kelsey. And she has another friend who is very quiet, Lily.
Annie and I met because we do charity work together and we became friends and I would hang out with her, and she would ALWAYS bring up Naomi, all the time, telling me what church she goes to, things they’ve done to her and how she reacted etc. Even once when I mentioned eating these amazing muffins, she was like “oh me and Naomi went to this amazing coffee shop the other time but I cant remember what its called, I’ll ask her for you”.
Kelsey and I would also hang out and she would also always bring her up, try and link whatever we were talking about to Naomi. But Kelsey would also seem to have a crush on me anyway. We were having hell week and were supposed to graduate but didnt because of issues with transport. Continue reading
So, I am best friends with my ex-boyfriend’s ex-boyfriend (I’m a guy). I also have had a huge crush on him since he broke up with my ex. I didn’t want to ruin what we had between us, so I never bothered to vocalise or display my feelings. Then, he got a boyfriend, and I pushed my feelings to the side and remained his best friend. Now, he has been broken up with his now-ex-boyfriend for a month (from a four-month relationship), and my feelings have come back stronger than ever.
I stayed at his place on Sunday night. I arrived at 1:30 and we talked until 3:30. Take into mind that we were sharing the same bed, as friends do, like. Then, we started kissing and after two minutes, he said “I can’t do this! I’m not ready for a relationship.”
And I said “Okay, that’s no problem.”
He then said “You can’t tell Shane about this,” and I said “My sex life isn’t any of his business, so he ain’t going to be finding out. Look you don’t want this so I’ll stop.” Continue reading
I’m a freshman in high school and a boy I like who’s a sophomore has been Snapchatting me for a couple of weeks now. I thought he might like me, too, but last night he asked for pictures of my underwear. I said no because I’m not like that. I’m scared that since I won’t send him pictures, he might not want to talk to me. What should I do? PLEASE HELP!
I’m in a predicament. This one kid from my Spanish class and who lives in my dorm is clearly into me. He says hi to me when I walk by him, and when I’m with him he always makes it important to touch me, like put his arm around me, hug me, or hold me.
Saturday night at a party, he wrapped his arm around me, and I gave him a high five and we continued to hold hands. I know that this might seem silly, not important stuff, but it’s so noticeable to me. He’s so sweet and nice and funny but I don’t know if I view him in that way. Or maybe I do. I just don’t know. I’m so conflicted.
I don’t find him physically attractive (that’s mean), but him holding me felt right. On top of this, I find his best friend to be so hot and attractive, but I don’t know if I like the kind of person he is. If they mixed together and became one, he would be the perfect guy. I’m so confused. What should I do?
My husband is unaffectionate with me. Consequently every male person that shows me any affection I tend to develop feelings for. Usually I just avoid them until my feelings subside, but this time it’s my boss. I’m also having delusions that he has feelings for me. He is much younger and the situation is impossible. I am a little lost and would appreciate any advice.
I am married and have never been unfaithful. I love my wife.
I have a friend I have known for years who I cannot get out of my thoughts. I have been drawn to her like a magnet since the day we met. I have never crossed the line with her, but I feel guilt because I have dreamed and fantasized about her. I value our friendship and I don’t understand why she has this effect on me.
Does this make me a bad husband?
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