“How can I stop thinking about her?”

I am a 19-year-old boy, a virgin, and I have a crush. I am good-looking and in good shape (I get that from people — I’m not bragging, and it’s nothing I’m proud of — I just got lucky with my genes).

I grew up in Kuwait, a conservative country, and never spoke to a girl in my life. Now I am studying abroad in Turkey, and there is this girl in my department I am crazy about. I have known her for a year and a half, and she is the most beautiful thing in the world. Continue reading

“I always fear rejection”

There’s this girl in my class who I’m absolutely crazy about. I want to ask her out, but we never talk, and I guess you could say she’s out of my league. I keep thinking that there’s no way she would ever say yes and that there are more fish in the sea, but I’ve never felt the same about anyone, and I haven’t met anyone like her in my life. I always fear rejection, and I don’t want to let it go, because she seems like the only person for me. Could anyone advise me on what to do?

“I really like him, but I’m nervous like he is”

So this guy and I have known each other for about a year-and-a-half now. We go to the same school, and I normally see him like 2-3 times a day. We mostly talk through social media, so it’s really awkward when we are together in person.

I see him in the morning in the library with both my friends and his friends. Some days, he leaves the library a few minutes after I get there. He sometimes looks at me, and other times he doesn’t.

In the hall, when we pass each other, he either looks at me for a few seconds and keeps on walking, or he looks at me quickly and tries to move for his side more like he’s trying to escape or something. He gives me a lot of mixed signals, and that’s why I can’t tell if he likes me, but is just really shy, or just not interested at all. Continue reading

“I don’t find him physically attractive, but him holding me felt right”

I’m in a predicament. This one kid from my Spanish class and who lives in my dorm is clearly into me. He says hi to me when I walk by him, and when I’m with him he always makes it important to touch me, like put his arm around me, hug me, or hold me.

Saturday night at a party, he wrapped his arm around me, and I gave him a high five and we continued to hold hands. I know that this might seem silly, not important stuff, but it’s so noticeable to me. He’s so sweet and nice and funny but I don’t know if I view him in that way. Or maybe I do. I just don’t know. I’m so conflicted.

I don’t find him physically attractive (that’s mean), but him holding me felt right. On top of this, I find his best friend to be so hot and attractive, but I don’t know if I like the kind of person he is. If they mixed together and became one, he would be the perfect guy. I’m so confused. What should I do?

Hooked up with a guy in my class…

We had a very simple friendship, which I liked.. but we hooked up and now things are confusing. I know that neither of us want a relationship (at least I don’t think he does). He told me that things wouldn’t be awkward, and things would just go back to normal, but I think I may have screwed that up because the first time I saw him since we hooked up, I curved him so bad and I think he has the idea that I didn’t enjoy what we did.. but really, I was just too embarrassed to face him. What do you guys think? and how should I fix this? Also, we don’t really have that deep talk type of relationship so I think it’d be hard to just straight up talk to him..