I am a 19-year-old boy, a virgin, and I have a crush. I am good-looking and in good shape (I get that from people — I’m not bragging, and it’s nothing I’m proud of — I just got lucky with my genes).
I grew up in Kuwait, a conservative country, and never spoke to a girl in my life. Now I am studying abroad in Turkey, and there is this girl in my department I am crazy about. I have known her for a year and a half, and she is the most beautiful thing in the world.
Here comes the problem, though: I can’t be with her for several reasons. It’s not that I am just shy (although I am). I literally can’t for reasons that would take too long to explain. I haven’t seen her much this last semester, which made her come up less in my thoughts. But when I do, my heart just rips out of my chest, and my day is ruined.
What can I do to stop this? How can I forget her or just stop thinking about her? I can’t get a girlfriend, because no girl looks pretty after seeing that girl for the first time 1.5 years ago. It’s ruining my life, study, and sleep.
One thought on ““How can I stop thinking about her?””
I think it would be a good idea to just talk to her and maybe seek a friendship with her. If that will hurt you more, perhaps envision why the future will be better without her and why your reasons for not pursuing her are valid. If you can’t find any validity in not being with her… then seriously reconsider the things that are holding you back, because they might be holding you back from your happiness. All the best!!!