“Should I be with this married man to further my career?”

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I’ve been struggling with a decision I’ve recently made, or if I should make the complete opposite decision. I have asked very few friends and family for their words of wisdom, and wanted advice from an outsider’s perspective.

I have recently taken on a new career (in the arts, freelance) and met an extremely successful, well-known artist in this same area with highly notable contacts and connections, who frequently takes trips/travels to exotic locations for jobs. We immediately took a liking to one another (a little too much). Continue reading →

“I can’t choose between the two people I love”

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Since I was about 14, I met this guy at a party my friend threw. We clicked immediately, started talking and dating right away. It was innocent and harmless since we were so young. For the next 4 years we still managed to keep contact and be together even though we never formally “dated,” but we still consider each other our first girlfriend and boyfriend.

He got sent away to a boarding school last year and I was traumatized losing him from my life, I thought he’d always be there for when I was ready to be really serious with him, as during those 4 years he never really moved on or had eyes for anyone else. I saw other people but it lasted a quick month because I never found that “click” again. Continue reading →

“Shall I brush off his advances?”

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My flatmate has started dating a guy. I have been with my boyfriend for two years, and our boyfriends have only met a few times. We had a party at the weekend when my flatmates ‘guy’ called me fit (hot) and was a bit touchy with me.

My boyfriend says he feels a bit disrespected by him, but my flatmate just brushed it off and said she didn’t see the big deal, and that we were overreacting. I told her because she was in another room at the time! Could anyone give us their opinion please?

“My boyfriend’s circumcision is leaving me unsatisfied”

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Hey! I have a question about a situation I’m having with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and we just recently started exploring intimacy in all forms; sexual, emotional, etc.  A little background on my man, he had a surgery three years ago for a circumcision, and for a very long time he masturbated and now can’t get off on just the vagina.

I personally get off when my man ejactulates because of my mouth, or my body, but this is not the case. He would finish with his hand and I would be left somewhat unsatisfied and sometimes even feel sad after we finish. He can make me cum, but I always prefer it if it were with his penis, not his hands. I believe his masturbation is getting in the way of this.

My question is, how do I tell him that I am unsatisfied because of this problem, all while making it clear that I still love him and do not insult his manhood? Please get back to me as soon as you can!

“I’m threatened by my girlfriend’s best friend”

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Is it okay if my girlfriend, that I’ve known and fought to be with for almost 2 years, is best friends with someone she’s known for almost 6 months, who she knows is in love with her? It has been confirmed by mutual friends, that were confided in by said ‘best friend.’

Am I overreacting and being a ‘possessive dick’ when I get upset about all the time they spent together,  and out-of-town overnight trips they take together? I am told over and over again my girlfriend has zero feelings for anyone other than me. But I can’t help but feel threatened by it.

“I like a guy at work but I’m too shy to talk to him”

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I’m having some trouble at work. It’s because of this guy that works with me. He started working there in November of last year and I’m starting to really like him. The problem is, I’m really quiet and shy around him. I try not to be, I have so much that I want to say, but can never say it. I just don’t know what to do. He sometimes talks to me while we’re working or before or after our shift. I’ve noticed that he’ll do certain things to impress me while we’re working too. And he always makes me laugh. Or sometimes I’ll even catch him staring at me from time to time.

I really want to talk with him more outside of work, I’m friends with him on Facebook, but I’m too shy and scared to make the first move and message him. I don’t want things getting weird at work either. And to make matters worse, I’m friends with his little sister who also works with us.

“My boyfriend and I want to move to Germany after college”

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I am a 19 year old college student who is about to be done with my first year at a community college, and my 20 year old boyfriend of 3 years will be done with his second year at the same community college. We have decided that we would like to further our education in a European country, perhaps Germany, where there are Masters programs taught in English.

Instead of moving back to the United States after we are done with college, we may want to stay and continue living in Europe, and figure out our lives together there. So far we are looking into smaller city universities in Germany like Freiburg, Schiller, and Hochschule for instance. We’re not really into the partying scene, more athletic nature lovers. Is there any advice anyone can give me on this? Where do I even start? Is this possible? Can we live there after college? If we want to move back, is the degree worth the same in the U.S? Can I bring my cat? What’s the average yearly cost of living in Germany?

“I’m pissed at my boyfriend who is smoking weed”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years and have a future ahead of us. I love him with all of me and would do anything to make him happy.

Last night we got into an argument regarding him smoking. He was not a smoker when we began dating, but during a short break early on in the relationship, he turned to it to cope. As we got back together, he felt he didn’t need weed anymore and “put it to the side”. Over the years, he has lied, and gone behind my back to smoke with friends. Recently, we agreed that I would be more open to the idea of smoking if he could maintain honesty and good communication about it, which I thought would help. Continue reading →

“My guy doesn’t want to have sex with me”

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The guy I have been seeing for the last few months is hesitant to want to have sex yet, which I am very much okay with. The last thing I would want to do is have someone take things faster than they are comfortable with. We are both in our mid 20’s, and have both had multiple sexual partners before each other.

My concerns come from his reason for not wanting to have sex yet. When we discuss it, I hear a lot of “you deserve better than to jump right into sex” and “we often don’t see each other due to my schedule and it’s not fair of me to expect you to give it up on my schedule”. We have talked about how I’m very interested in going ahead and having sex, and that those wants are based on my own pleasure not his.

I hope someone can shed some of their own insights into this situation.