“My racist parents are ruining my relationship”

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I’ll just keep it simple here. I am a white female and I have a crush on a black male. This is perfectly normal and I am not racist and am accepting of all people. My parents on the other hand, are very racist, to the point where they remind me by threatening me to not be interested in anybody but white guys.

I really have a good thing going with this black boy that I really like but I don’t know what to do. They won’t change their views but I’m 17 and have my own opinions and I am my own person. They can’t force their views onto me. And I’m not going to let them stand in the way of something like this over something as ridiculous as skin color… any advice?

“My weed-smoking girlfriend says she likes another girl”

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. She’s currently away in college, 9 hours from me, while I work back here at our home. In recent times she has been smoking a lot of weed (which she never did before going to college) and overall just talking to me less and less.

I don’t really care too much about the weed smoking, it’s truly not an issue, but when she came back for spring break, she said she’s been contemplating breaking up with me because she’s developed feelings for a female at school. Continue reading →

“Is this child my husband’s or not?”

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Here’s the deal: my husband had an affair with a married woman. We separated when I found out in the most horrific way and remained that way for over a year before reconciling. I now know everything about what happened and have moved past it.

Here’s my one problem. After we separated, he continued to see her for several months while she was still with her husband (both of them intimately). She got pregnant during that time and her husband refused to claim the baby was his, instead insisting it must be my husband’s, because it was born handicapped. There was never any sort of DNA testing done and the child was given up for adoption to a beautiful family (yes, I met them). My husband just wants to forget the whole thing and let it be, but I honestly don’t believe this child could possibly be his. It looks NOTHING like our children but identical to the other woman’s child with her husband. I want a DNA test done to confirm either way before I even begin thinking about telling our children about this other child. Am I crazy? Should we just move on like the kid doesn’t exist? How do I get him to do the DNA test?

“I love my boyfriend but we’re not right for each other”

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We need different things, and I know that now, but it didn’t stop me falling head over heels for him and integrating him into my friend group. I love him, but this relationship is heading nowhere good.

We’re both in college, and that’s where we met, but we are on totally different planes academically. He failed all but one of his classes last semester while I’m trying to stay above a 3.5 for my Honors Academy standing. It makes sharing my successes with him very hard because he’s trailing so far behind me when he should be in the same classes as me. Then there’s the biggest problem I have.  Continue reading →

“My newly divorced dad is falling apart”

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I’m a 24 year old lesbian living with my dad. Just got out of the military 6 months ago. I have a job and help with bills etc. I moved back in with my newly divorced dad. Mom cheated. Now I’m seeing a whole new side of my dad that I don’t like. He gets new girlfriends and tries to show off in front of them by talking bad about how I’m messy (when he’s the messy one,) and tries to basically make me look like a child.

He went in my bathroom and showed her my dildo in the shower lol.. which I use to suction the drain shut. (I’m desperate) … Anyway, I’m just wondering if I’m over reacting or if that’s messed up? He also doesn’t care to spend time with me or my sisters. And spent all my grandma’s will money that she had saved for my mom. He can’t pay bills, so I’m helping, my wife is helping, and he continues to talk down to us. I don’t know what to do.

“My virtual Facebook lover deactivated his account”

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My friend introduced me to this boy, through Facebook. She told me that he was also looking for a partner. At first he was shy, then as days passed, I saw his true character. We had so much in common, I felt that he was my duplicate. We related in so many things. For me, everything was perfect. Even when I saw the negatives in him. And even if we were just talking for days, it felt like years.

One night, my friend, who introduced him to me, messaged me. She told me that he talked to her, saying that he was already falling for me. And he is scared because he had plans before me. He was scared that he would change his mind if he continued talking to me. So he decided that he would not talk to me for a while. Continue reading →

“My wife slept with a guy on a cruise”

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I have been married for almost 2 years and have dated her for 16 years. About 10 months ago, my wife told me she slept with a guy while on a cruise with girlfriends 12 years ago. I’m upset about it and can’t let it go.

After telling me about him,  I found a picture album with a number of pictures of her with him, taken on the cruise, and she told me she called him after the cruise twice.

“Our sex life has gone downhill”

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I tell my girlfriend what I want in sex. I need her to be more spontaneous about things. She’s super sensitive about me touching her. It’s been 5 years and I feel like my sex life isn’t where it needs to be in the relationship. Am I overreacting about the situation?

“Should I reach out to my old boyfriend?”

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I have been thinking a lot lately about an old friend from high school who I haven’t seen or talked to (aside from social media,) in a while. Although we never were in an exclusive relationship, we have a romantic history in which we were more than friends – a typical fling.

It never became anything serious because my feelings for him weren’t as strong as his were for me, and I guess you could say I just didn’t give us a chance. After a few years of him expressing his feelings for me and trying to pursue a relationship with me, he finally gave up and moved on. Continue reading →