“Do I stick it out, or give up on my current relationship?”

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When we first talked about dating, she promised an honest and open relationship in the sense of communication.

In the time we’ve dated, communication hasn’t gotten any better and is absolutely terrible compared to before. I’ve gotten cheated on, she lies consistently, still talks with the men she flirts with and is still incredibly irresponsible. She also claims to have cheated on a guy simply because she didn’t screw or see him for two weeks. I won’t be able to see her for a while so I’m concerned.

She has plenty of great qualities and I am madly in love with her,  but I can’t trust her to save my life. How can I resolve this? We get along great, and have awesome chemistry.

She has PTSD related issues, so I can’t approach these issues directly without her shutting down and going dead silent for two days. How can I resolve this?

“What’s wrong with me?”

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My best friend left for bootcamp for the marines about a week ago, and ever since then, I’ve been acting weird, both physically and emotionally. I can’t sleep, and when I do, it’s always nightmares about him dying on the battlefield.

I can’t eat, just thinking of food makes me sick to my stomach. I barely talk to any of my friends, and I’ve started to isolate myself from everyone. He’s all I think about day and night and I’ve ended up crying every night because I’m scared for him. But he’s my best friend, why am I acting this way?

“He spat in my face and threw a TV remote at me”

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My partner and I have been in a relationship now for over 5 years. It’s been a lot of turmoil. We recently moved to California, where he was offered a job as a tattoo artist at one of the best shops in this town. We come from a small Texan town.

He doesn’t let me visit him at work and I’m pretty sure it’s because he tells people he’s single. So last night I got a bit insecure and tried to express it. It ended up, him spitting in my face, throwing a TV remote at me, and smacking me around with his fucking hat. Continue reading →

“The tension between us is damaging our relationship”

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My daughter graduated nursing school in June with honours, and is afraid to take her NCLEX exam and start her career . She says that she needs more time to prepare but I am trying to urge her to write the exam before she starts to lose confidence in writing.

She explains to me that she does not feel confident caring for patients and does not feel she learned enough in the school setting. I am trying to reason with her that she will learn on the job and she will have a support system when she starts. She is telling me to back off it’s none of my business and she will take as much time as she needs. Continue reading →

“My husband is an addict and needs help”

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I don’t know whether to stay or leave……my husband just lost his job, after being there a little over a year. It’s the longest job he’s held since we’ve been married (10 years almost). He lost it because he failed a ua (meth).

I recently found out he was using and he promised to stop. He has now, for maybe a week, so I’m not holding my breath that he’s done for good. This isn’t the first time he’s battled an addiction either. He’s gambled thousands of dollars, clearing our bank account and right before Christmas.

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“Do I confront him and risk losing him?”

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I met this guy on a dating app (we’re both guys) and at first I thought we were just in it for the sex, but then he started getting sweet on me: hanging out for more than sex, cooking me meals, Netflix and chill, spending every day after classes (we’re both in university) together. We basically became a couple in all but name.

We had a row and he made it clear that he doesn’t like me ‘that way’, but we still continue as if nothing changed. We also made it clear that we were just friends, despite everything we did together, and so we began seeing other guys on the side. However, this has led to both of us fighting even more.

He’s said over and over that he likes me as a friend, and he’s limited our sexual contact which I’ve respected, but we are still very intimate physically and spend every night together (just no sex). We practically live together. One night, I came home, not completely sober, and he kissed me, despite having banned it previously.

I get the sense that perhaps he isn’t ready to face his feelings for me, but I feel that if I confront him about this I might lose him. What should I do?

“I’m falling for an exotic dancer”

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31/M/Registered Nurse. I am just out of a 10 year marriage and have had a lot of trouble dating. I lost a lot of weight, improved the way I dressed, without any luck. I ended up befriending a couple exotic dancers that are much younger than I am. One of whom I am very interested in pursuing a relationship with. She’s in a relationship with another guy but is constantly spending time with me. Her partner and her have a very bad relationship and he’s very distant.

Almost every day she’s asking for comfort from me because he doesn’t support her. I give it freely but have made my feelings known but stated I’d prefer their relationship run it’s course before I pursue anything. I ended up inviting them along for a vacation in a city where they work occasionally. This led to her partner distancing himself further and yet another night of talking/texting/spending time together.

My questions are as follows 1) Should I even be pursuing a relationship with an exotic dancer 10 years my junior? 2) Should I press her to leave her current partner since she’s so unhappy?

“Do I take her back and face the backlash?”

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I was in a relationship with this girl for 9 months, but it all abruptly came to an ended recently when we got into a….quarrel. Things escalated when she put her hands on me. I defended myself , she packed her things.

She called people to fight because she told them I put my hands on her and I called people as well. A fight happened involving both sides . This ended with her bleaching my carpets , some of clothes and ramming my car . We both ended up getting pfas (protection from abuse orders) equivalent to restraining orders, on each other.

But we both sat down and agreed those were unnecessary and the carpet she would replace. Now my question is where do we go from here, I love this girl and we usually argue, make up and be done with the situation, but too much happened this time, she went too far and too many people were involved. Do I let this go ? Or do I take her back and just face the backlash and negativity I’m going to receive from friends and family for forgetting any of this happened and going back to her . Please help, I don’t know what to do .

“My wife and I are fighting over another guy”

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My wife and I have been fighting over an issue that came up a while back. It was brought to my attention that a friend of hers seemed overly “friendly” when I wasn’t around. This, coupled with some things that I saw in their interactions, made me confront her and ask why someone thought this.

She immediately took his side and began defending him and their relationship. The fight progressed into a huge fight in which I asked her “do you care more about his feelings than mine?” Her answer was YES, I was completely floored by this and could not believe she would say that to me.

Since then we have several altercations and every time it ends the same, she acts like my feelings are not important and his are. I feel like there is something going on at a subconscious level, as I do trust her and we both work too much to have any time to mess around with somebody else? So how do I let go of how this makes me feel, she has apologized and I believe she is? HELP

“He has more of a relationship with his ex than with me”

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My fiancé has this ex whom he has two kids with, and no matter how horrible she is to him it’s like he can’t leave her alone.

He tells her first about things in his life where I get to find out later. He’s quick to jump and run for whatever she wants and needs. He claims he isn’t in love with her and he doesn’t want to be with her. Says he loves me and wants a future with me, but he won’t let her go…it’s an everyday battle. She always comes first no matter what. I’ve said how it bothers me and he just tells me I’m being insecure. So am I just being insecure?