I don’t know whether to stay or leave……my husband just lost his job, after being there a little over a year. It’s the longest job he’s held since we’ve been married (10 years almost). He lost it because he failed a ua (meth).
I recently found out he was using and he promised to stop. He has now, for maybe a week, so I’m not holding my breath that he’s done for good. This isn’t the first time he’s battled an addiction either. He’s gambled thousands of dollars, clearing our bank account and right before Christmas.
We have 2 children together. He’s also been addicted to heroin. He rarely drinks anymore, and hasn’t for a very long time, but gets angry when he does. He tries to be a good man. On a day to day basis I am the one to cook and clean, and make sure the needs of our children are met. Yes he does side jobs to supplement our small incomes, and he isn’t just sitting on the couch, but it would still be nice to have some “help”.
In my opinion though, it’s just as much his responsibility as it is mine. I just always feel at my wits end with him and part of me feels like leaving and the other part says “I made the commitment to love him for better or worse, in sickness and in health” but what if there is more worse than better and more sickness (his addiction) than health? We are rarely intimate because I can’t be if I don’t feel close to him. We barely communicate…..I’m just at a loss…
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Protect your children. He’s never going to change. Your already a single parent. Go the department of human resources and learn about your choices. Apply for child support and move out. Don’t teach them that this abuse is all there is to life. You are a smart woman who is trying to save a man who doesn’t want help. All he will ever give is lip service to keep you there. You deserve better. Your children deserve a whole father instead of a deadbeat, drug addict. They will repeat his mistakes if you don’t teach them otherwise.