For the past couple of months I’ve felt like I might have anxiety and/or depression. I really want to get a therapist because I find it easiest venting to strangers. I don’t know how to bring up the issue with my parents. I’m afraid they’ll see it as some type of phase, as I’m only twelve but I just want to look out for myself I guess. Any advice?
“My friend is too demanding”
I’m a pushover that was pressured into sex with a very demanding friend that lives in a different city. He belittles me (saying things like “you need someone to take care of you’), doesn’t share my interests, and handles situations with zero tact (which annoys the hell out of me.) He’s embarrassed me many times. Plus the sex is bad.
He visits twice a year and to my dismay, we share a bed. He is planning on moving to my city in a year and I want to set boundaries. We have been friends for over ten years and I’d like to keep him in the background without the intimacy. He makes me laugh and we share a group of friends. I need to be careful because this man is vindictive, loud, and bitchy (somebody I wouldn’t want as an enemy.)
Can this relationship return to its platonic state? Do I tell him I don’t want the romance? Do I just phase him out? Cut him out of my life cold turkey? Help!
“My partner doesn’t love me anymore”
My partner of 6 years has recently told me he no longer finds me attractive and doesn’t love me anymore. He says he wants to work on things and get back to what we used to be. This took me completely by surprise, I had no idea, and thought we were really happy.
Now he keeps going on about my weight and saying I should exercise more and try weightloss shakes. Im 170cm and weigh 85kg and gained most of that when I had our baby last year.
He says he still doesn’t know what he wants (whether to stay or break up) and doesn’t want to make the wrong decision and regret it. I’m stuck on what to do or think at this stage. I have told him he needs go make a decision asap because its not fair to me or my son.
Anyone been in this kind of situation before and what did you do and how did it work out?
“We don’t want to invite her to the wedding”
I’m maid of honour at a wedding, we have a close-ish group of girl friends who are mostly all invited, except for one, who the bride (and her partner and I agree) don’t really want to invite. She is mostly just in the friendship group because it’s been the same since high school, rather than because we have a lot in common.
She can be very loud and disruptive and frankly won’t make a nice addition for the wedding, and isn’t a good friend of the bride. Anyway, the bride already sent her a save the date, because she was afraid of hurting her feelings, but now is sure she doesn’t want her at the wedding, also swayed by the fact she didn’t realise that most of the rest of the group didn’t care for her much either. Any advice on how to break it to her? Or do we just never send her the invite (feel like that may be hard/ cowardly to do). Or are we being horrible and we should just invite her?
Tldr – how do we not invite one person from the friendship group to a wedding (when she’s already sent congratulatory card / flowers, knows the date etc)
As I’m writing this I realise I sound horrible, but surely if it’s your wedding you should invite whoever tf you want, not just people to save their feelings? She hasn’t been the kindest person in the past, and no one is going to mind if the friendship is broken. But fair enough if you think we sound like big meanies!
“Another girl is constantly in my thoughts”
It’s been 6 years, 3 of which was falling in love with my fiancee, since we dated. It didn’t end poorly, and she was my first love. I can’t learn how to not think about her. She constantly appears in dreams and randomly pops up in mind when/ if I see red hair. I love my fiancee, she’s my better half and couldn’t be a better person or future mother.
It doesn’t change my random thoughts though and they’re starting to be painful. I should’ve told my fiancee about these thoughts long ago but now it’ll destroy her. I’m really not sure what’s going on in my head about it all. I want so bad to commit to my future but I literally cannot stop thoughts of a relationship from high school over 6 years ago. Do I just carry this forever?
“A co-worker is trying to ruin our relationship”
I am in the early stages of a relationship, and everything is going great. But, a former co-worker has decided that myself and her have “dated”, and messaged my new girl saying that we were still dating, so look out. It has dealt a pretty serious blow to our relationship, and we are looking to repair it. My current girlfriend worked with her in a networking group and may have slighted the girl that is trying to wedge into our relationship.
What would be the best way to handle this? We have thought of inviting this person out to call them to task, or to message her back, but I’m thinking this is just giving our relationship power, to her. On the flip side, we thought about just ignoring it and not giving it any energy. Thoughts?
“Are we too young for a relationship?”
I am in 6th grade, and I really like this girl in my class. She likes me too, and we have even kissed several times. I enjoy being with her, but I feel like we are too young, and need to wait to have relationships.
At the same time, I really want to keep being with her, and wonder about whether to kiss her in the bathroom the next day. I am torn. What should I do?
“He doesn’t show that he loves me like he did before”
Hello. First of all, thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I hope I get advice from you. This is my first time asking for advice online and I feel like I can get the answers that I need in here. About my problem, I’m so confused if whether my boyfriend truly loves me or not. Well, he is handsome (he knows that obviously), smart, affectionate (which I like the best), and caring (at the start of the relationship yes, but now not so much).
We’d been in a relationship for 1 year and 3 months. I make twice his income (but I’m not that bothered about that). I already met his parents a lot of times and vice versa. He drives me to my work everyday which is 40 mins away from home using his motorcycle. Actually half of the money to pay for the motorcycle is from me. He treats me snacks or lunch or dinner and vice versa. He’s really sweet when we’re alone. I love it when he hugs me. Continue reading
“He hasn’t spoken to me since I moved home”
I met my boyfriend on an online game and we live in 2 different states. I lived with him for 2 and a half months, but unable to get a job to stay with him in his state, and eventually moved back home.
While I was with him we got into a pretty big fight (I was waaayy too drunk and don’t really remember it, sadly) but we slowly solved the problems and I completely got over it. A month goes by, no fighting or anything but he isn’t as loving towards me as he used to be. No intimacy at all. It felt like I was living with a friend. But he says repeatedly that he is over it, it is irrelevant, etc.
About 2 or 3 weeks later he takes me to the airport and I fly home. It has now been 2 weeks that I have been home and I haven’t spoken to him. I text and call him, maybe every couple of days and he will never return my call or text back. He is my second love but I love him more than I loved my first. I know I could be overreacting and that I jumped around in my story a lot. I’ve lost way too much sleep over this and it hurts, I’ve been trying since I was with him to mend our relationship and fix what I broke in the fight we had, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose him. Any help is appreciated.
“He’s an alcoholic and I feel like his mother”
My boyfriend is a depressed, functioning, alcoholic.
We’ve been dating for a year and a half, at about 6 months into our relationship I found out about his drinking & progressively after that more and more was revealed. He drinks alone when his depression gets heavy (1-2 times per month). He’s never violent or angry, just emotional and the drinking upsets him more. He does tend to call me in the middle of the night as he is wandering drunk around NYC at 3am and begs me to let him stay over (I oblige because I worry).
He lost his job (not because of alcohol) but it’s factored into his depression. He doesn’t seem interested in working again but he is going to therapy (on my insurance).
I don’t want to leave him but I feel like I’ve had to put my life on hold to take care of him (emotionally and financially). I’m starting to feel more like a mother than a girlfriend. I’m in my early 30s, never married, and want a future with him, but it seems like he’ll never get to a place to think about the future. Everything is just dealing with him right now.
I don’t know what to do.
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